This brings me to my problem, I have been married for 21 years, in that time I have never strayed from my relationship with my wife. 13 years ago she was diagnosed with Multiple sclerosis, as she progressed though her diseases, our sex life has been brought to a very long end. it has been 10 years since I have had sex or held her in my arms. it causes her pain to be touched on her skin. I do not plan on ever leaving her I am here for the duration, but I have needs and my hand is getting very tired. I am not saying what I want to do is morally correct in any way, I love her with all my heart, but it is getting so hard to continue this no sex rule.
Here is my question to you. would I be so wrong to find someone to take care of my needs? To pursue no more than a sexual relationship with someone in a similar situation, Or some one who would be discrete enough to understand that it would be like any other sport, just having fun, with know attachments or expectations?