We were there just to have a drink and talk about different things, but as it was Friday night place was full of people who wanted to party. We're just sitting there, when waitress brings a glass of wine from "the table over there" to one of my friends.
What happened after that is not so important, but I have some thoughts about all this.
First of all - how a guy knows when to buy a drink for a girl? I mean is there a research before that and guy is checking out all the ladies in the bar to choose the one who will receive a drink? And after all there are like a million possibilities - girl can reject drink, she can go away before waitress serves drink, another guy (or boyfriend or whatever) can show up.. Actually I just got that it might take a lot of courage for a guy to even start all this. Or maybe just a couple of bears so the fear goes away.. I mean I couldn't just order a drink for a stranger without doubts about self-confidence and stuff like that.
Second of all - how guy chooses what drink to buy for a girl? Often it's the drink that girl/-s is already drinking, but yesterday we were drinking beer and a guy ordered wine. I mean are they trying to get girl drunk faster by Long-Islands or unbelievable combinations of alcohol (this might be my extreme version of this), or maybe they are scanning a girl and trying to guess what she likes? I see that also as a way to show amount of money that guy is about to spend - is it most expensive champagne in the bar or just a beer.
Third of all - what are guys purposes when he is buying a drink for a girl? Every time when it happens to me I actually feel like I owe something to that guy and actually I am quite sure that there are a lot of guys who are trying to buy girls attention. And it is not so easy to buy my attention actually, because still if I don't find that guy attractive in some kind of way I won't be able to chat for a long time or dance all night and I'll just be open to other offers and trying to escape form this guy with help of my friends or other people or fake phone calls.. (God, we, girls make Your life a hell, guys..).
What happened to us after that wine: after a while one of guys from that table sat with us and started a conversation. It was interesting in the beginning but soon we were trying to figure out how to get him away. He went to another place after about 30mins, but then other guy from the same table came to us, apologized about his brother's behavior and sat down, so we all talked for a while about this and that without buying any drinks or other stuff. Actually this was so much better way how to start a conversation with a bunch of strangers although it should be harder.
Ok, it would be enough for first real post, so this is my opinion on this subject, feel free to comment and share your expperience or opinion. I know that there isn't just one way of acting in situation like this.