I had tried to explain this to him. He was adamant that we experience things together. The problem that started surfacing was that he was not selective. He chatted with everyone and we ended up meeting with couples that were not attractive to me at all. I am fully aware that I am in my mid 30's. I know that I am a bigger girl (even though I workout regularly). Sometimes my roots show, and I don't always have my toenails painted. But I take pride in making sure that when I meet someone for the first time I'm not cussing. My hair looks nice, my clothes fit appropriately, and I can carry on a conversation. Even when I am not meeting them for the possibility of having sex at some point in the future.
The main problem that I had with the swinger's website was single men would message us. One part of me didn't mind at all, but it wasn't giving us the experience that Hubs wanted. It was frustrating to me. I found several of them attractive and funny. I ended up swapping one liners with several of them. I ran it by Hubs about me meeting with one here and there. Before we knew it, things started to spiral out of control. All of a sudden, I got all the attention and he got nothing. I think he was hurt by it. Maybe he was jealous. I felt bad, because I was getting a lot out of just knowing that men were interested in me. It had been a long time that anyone besides Hubs had shown any interest in me. Having strangers tell me I was beautiful and sex and smart was addicting.
And very quickly it got out of control.