I am an inveterate fantasizer. Most guys are. Regardless of who we all are we all fantasize about sex. For me and I suspect for most guys (and girls), sexual fantasies are erotic activities that I would never engage in or want to experience. I am embarrassed to say they include things that people who know me would be shocked if they knew what I fantasized about.
Sexual fantasies have been given a bad rap. For years, sexual fantasies have been associated with symptoms of emotional, sexual and psychological disturbances, and for being subconscious indicators of suppressed abnormal sexual tendencies. To the contrary some things I have read reinforce what I have always known, that sexual fantasy is a positive form of erotic expression. Sexual fantasies add excitement to sex which can easily become mechanical, sterile and boring. For me fantasy helps me by:
Helping launch and sustain my multiple orgasms.
Arousing me for no reason other than to titillate myself and build up sexual arousal and tension in a private and safe way. I love the feeling of being aroused and savoring it for later sexual activity.
Having the experience of having sex with several sex partners, many of whom would be outrageously inappropriate without actually doing it; I have had erotic fantasies about hundreds of women over my life.
Giving into my curiosity about certain unusual sexual experiences like homosexual liaisons, watching my wife have sex with other men, or being held in bondage during sex. Fantasizing about these things does not mean that I would actually want to do them, even if I could.
I have commented many times in this blog that my mind is my body's biggest erogenous organ. In many instances, sexual fantasies take on an almost real life experience considered as 'steamy' to the extent that they can hardly be considered a fantasy.
I have read that men fantasize more than women but I don’t believe that. I have asked J and a few other women on the site whether they fantasize. They all admitted yes they do but as would be expected they refused to tell me what those fantasies were other than a few sketchy details. Part of the delight of a fantasy is its secrecy.
Here are my own leading fantasies in no order.
I should first say that I have spent many years seriously investigating sex and trying to better understand my own sexual sexual response and women’s sex drives and response. For me and a lot of guys, my fantasies are about power and control or conversely loss of control. Some of my favourite reveries reflect the desire to skip the perennial smile-and-wink, followed by dinner-and-a-movie, and get straight to the hard core or have a woman (or man) take the responsibility of sex away from me. Making me relinquish my traditional male role of initiator and having them taking control of the sex from me, forcing me to experience things I would never initate myself. The forcing aspect justifies the abnormality of it in my mind.
Domination / Submission. In particular being taken forcefully by a guy; these homosexual fantasies involve being fucked anally by a guy whose cock who actually resembles my own. This fantasy is usually one of being forced to have the sex and discovering in the process that it felt good and succumbing to and enjoying it. I only invoke this fantasy in one very specific circumstance, when I am using a prostate massager. The gentle pressure of the massager on my prostate gland produces the most intense and incredible pleasure; it makes me think of a cock pressing me there. I envision that pressure as the cock inside of me. In truth I am envisioning my own penis. Talking aloud and describing the act of being fucked really gets me aroused and will invariably hasten waves of deep orgasms.
Harem. This is the one where I the only male in a room full of willing women. It can take several different forms. In one I am made to masturbate in front of them all, I am totally naked while they are all dressed. In another version they are all naked and I am systematically calling each one up to the front of a room where I fuck each one to shuddering orgasm, only to bring the next up and so on as they all watch. Many times they are women I know.
Younger woman . This one’s fairly obvious. I will pick a girl that I know, sometimes dangerously young and have her coming on to me. After resisting it and being responsible it soon becomes hopeless and I give in to my erotic dark side. The sex is very passionate and I teach her about her own body and her own sexual response as well as the pleasures that my own body can offer her. Oral sex on her is always a big part of this one.
Watching J with another man. This one is really tortuous for me. While I find it totally arousing it tears me up with jealousy. It can take several forms. The first involves me coming home unexpectedly to come in the door and hear music in the upstairs bedroom. I quiet go upstairs to peek in our bedroom and find a stranger lying between her legs humping away while she is writhing and moaning. I can see his long cock sinking repeatedly into her giving her extreme pleasure as he relentlessly drills her aching pussy. Another has her in a day spa where two guys have ceased giving her a massage and are doing her at the same time. She is lost in the total experience of two men stimulating her in the amnner that only I know; she is totally into be done by both of them.
In a very dark version I am tied up and forced to sit and watch while a guy fucks her really hard against her will. She tries to resist but ultimately gets into it and embraces him urging him on until he cums in her hard and she screams as she cums holding him tightly and looking guiltily at me as she enjoys the sweet bliss from his throbbing cock inside her.
One that is really perverse involves her asking my permission to let her fuck a friends college aged son who she has been mentoring (in real life) in his design education since high school. He thinks the world of her and in my fantasy he is lusting for her. She finally acquiesces and gives into to his fantasy of fucking her. In this one there is a lot of oral sex for both of them but I focus particularly on him cumming in her mouth and having her swallow it. He is hard in moments afterwards and is on her fucking her until she screams.
Forbidden fruit. Having sex with my doctor. My internist is a very attractive 45 year old woman. She is giving me a prostate exam which initiates an unintentional intense dry orgasm. My orgasm contracts and squeezes her finger in a series of pulsing spasms. She is intrigued and proceeds to massage my prostate which launches me into a string of very hard orgasms that cause me to stream precum onto the paper cover of the exam table, something that she watches with great interest. Ultimately she sucks my cock until I cum in her mouth. There is never fucking in this one.
Sex with a stranger. Typically this one involves someone I meet during business travel, usually a conference and it is always in her hotel room not mine. Usually it is someone who is slightly younger than me but not much. It is usually a successful professional woman wearing a suit. Part of the intrigue in this one involves me slowly undressing her. When I get to her panties there is a considerable amount of sniffing on my part and me giving her alot of oral sex which has her collapsing in intense orgasms.
Threesome. For me this involves not only fucking and oral sex but it actually involves actually sleeping together. Typically it is a liaison of two women and me in a hotel for a weekend and we are snowed in. The weekend becomes 72 hours of torrid sex, taking Jacuzzi baths together, oral sex, eating my cum, massages, them doing prostate massage on me, kissing and some really kinky stuff.
Voyeurism. This one is a fantasy but it is also a memory. Eight years ago I had an exhibitionist neighbour, a twenty something who lived next door to us who would occasionally put on not so discreet masturbatory shows for me when she knew I was home. It was very hot. I replay that month long experience in my mind over and over again.
A woman having me as a sex slave. Typically I am a hired gun so to speak. My services involve conventional sex, oral sex and anal sex. Typically it is on a woman my age or even older who is desperate.
This list is a quick summary of my favorites. As I said in the opening of this entry I would never do any of these. They are all so far from the reality of who I am sexually. But that is what makes them so hot. They allow me to experience (in my mind) things that will never happen.
I am curious …do any of these resonate with you as you read them. If you are a woman do you have comparables? I would be curious. Please leave a comment with your response.
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