In the blog entry I launch right into techniques for stroking her pearl and coaxing her to the elegant agony of a passion induced orgasm. But it is important to keep in mind that her clit is a wonderfully complex and specialized part of her sexual anatomy. It is so sensitive that an unprepared immediate assault on it will not only not give her the bliss that you desire, it may actually hurt her. Her clit is a miraculous organ, it is so tiny but it is capable of creating feelings and sensations that are so profound they change her perception of the world around her, they can make her heart race and her skin flush, or make her lose control of her arms and legs, ejaculate fluids, scream or writhe in very unladylike fashion. All of this from an organ that is a half inch squared.
Her clit can immobilize her, make her look at you with adoration, lust and deep need, make her forget everything else in her life and focus on that one moment you are sharing and the miracle that you are performing between her thighs that penetrates her soul and takes control of her body.
I like to think of J’s pretty pink clit as a seed that I need to care for to help it grow and flourish. A seed that needs rich, damp earth, careful soil preparation, the warmth of the sun, and constant attention to removing all impediments that will inhibit the seed from germinating and growing to the full glory of a lush nectar rich flower.
J’s arousal is the same. I need to prepare the setting for our love making, not in damp earth but in luxurious bedding (yes we have satin sheets . . . they are wonderful but more about them later); soft pillows, candles, soft music, and wine provide the setting to plant for me to plant the love making seed. Careful soil preparation is the next step, which translates to how and where I stroke her and kiss her and show her how I feel about her. The warmth of the sun is best described as what I say. Loving words express the warm and pervasive emotions that I feel for her. Expression of those emotions warms her and if done in the context of the earlier preparation will cause her clit to awaken, stretch and emerge from its fleshy covering in search of me, my loving attention and the memory and promise of pleasurable sensation that is burned in the limbic recesses of her mind.
Warm loving words are the heat that swells her bud to reach out for me. How I touch her body and show her my own arousal helps her arousal to swell and propagate. I arouse her in the manner of a loving and respectful sex partner who in spite of my maleness has taken the time to learn about and understand her desire, body, her emotional needs and the nature of her physical and mental arousal. I am the sweet rain that will fall on her swelling bud and nurture it, causing her arousal to harden her clit and make it bloom so that it can experience the joy it is capable of. In it most aroused state her clit turns her vagina into dewy and lush flower that is red with lust and moist with her sweet nectar.
It is then my job to focus on her and her sexual needs and provide her sensual mind with what it needs and eliminate all other influences and distractions that will inhibit her experience of the deep and pervasive agonizing pleasure that I want her to feel.
The starting point for all of this is the setting. Many of us use dim lights, candles, music and massage to set the mood. But let me tell you something guys. Bedding matters. If you haven’t noticed already guys, women are softer than we are. They are also very tactile. Setting the bed to dine on her femininity is the same as setting the table to a formal dinner. The event deserves the right fineries. We use satin sheets.
J laying nude before me on flannel sheets or linen sheets is normal regular J. But J laying before me in the smooth caress of satin sheets is a different person. She becomes a highly erotic sexually powerful woman. A woman who not only holds her sexuality deep in the warm recesses of her pussy but who also projects that sexuality on the bedding that displays her. Her sexuality can sometimes fill the room and over power me if the setting is right.
The silky sensuality of the bedding is an extension of her own sexuality. The smooth silken pleasure of the satin sheets becomes indistinguishable from the sweet silken pleasure of the warm secret interior of her pussy. If paying attention to the bedding is the first step in the process of making her arousal grow, then the next step is finding and nurturing her erogenous spots and nurturing her flower to grow...
So what are the erogenous zones that drive women wild with passion?
The ones that immediately come to mind are of course are her breasts and her clitoris, however those two lovely spots are destinations . . . they are not the trip that you take. There is a lot of scenery to experience on this journey on her body before you end up with her aroused rubbery nipples in your mouth or your tongue savoring the tangy sweetness of her pussy and the quivering erection of her clit in its agonized need for pleasure.
J was a reserved, reticent young woman when I met her. Over the last 40 years we have been sharing love and the mystery of each others bodies. We have both learned a lot along the way. In the process she has become a woman who is secure with her feminine desire and who trusts me implicitly to help her experience the full dimension of that desire.
I have learned a lot from our love making and I have read a lot and studied a lot. One of the things that I have learned is the locations of her erogenous zones.
This blog entry is about the female erogenous zones that I have discovered and learned about in years of passionate love making to my sweet J. Some are obvious and some not so obvious. With careful attention to these magical places on J’s body I have brought her intense arousal and extreme pleasure. Hopefully you too will be able to learn from my experience and drive your lady wild with desire.
My most critical suggestion is first and foremost go slowly. Her body is a mystery. Take the time to discover it and enjoy that discovery process. If you take your time she will be both aching and dripping for you.
Keep in mind that women like a lot of foreplay, concentrating on her erogenous zones is the way to do it. It will help warm your partner up, increase her desire and lead to more a satisfying coupling, orgasm and bonding experience.
So here are the erogenous zones that rock J’s world..
Her Ears: There are a huge amount of nerve endings in and around her ears, making them extremely sensitive to being kissed, licked and nibbled. Explore your lady’s ears, gently kissing, licking and nibbling both around the outside of her ear and also forget to do the occasional warm tender lick inside her ear canal and behind her ear lobes. The depression on her neck underneath her lower earlobe is particularly sensitive to kisses and sweet strokes of your tongue. Keep in mind that delicacy is of the essence don’t slobber in her ears or jamb your tongue in them.
Her Lips: It goes without saying that for many women this is their number one erogenous zone. I have yet to meet a woman who says that she gets kissed enough. Spend as long as you can using your lips to tell her lips how you feel and her. A kiss is like a symphony, no one would listen to an orchestra if it only played one note. Women simply love to kiss, so do it right. Variety and passion is the key to a good kissing experience. Let her know you want, love and desire her; there is simply no better way to do this than a passionate kiss.
Try varying the intensity of the kiss, kiss softly, more passionately, and then slow down, make sure you keep her surprised and tease her.
Her Neck: J’s neck is one of her most sensitive erogenous zones. I usually trail from her ears down to her neck. For J and for many women the nape of her neck is exquisitely sensitive. I can give her chills from tender kisses on her secret spots of her neck. If I really focus on her pleasure and the sweet softness of the tender skin in her secret spots, and she is relaxed my passionate kisses on her neck will cause her pussy to open and drip its own passion. I have experienced this many times as I kiss her neck while my open palm warms and caresses her swelling pussy.
Most women simply love having their neck kissed, licked and sucked; in J it is a direct line to her arousal.
Explore the different areas of your lady’s neck, you will find the area closest to her ears or the nape to be particularly sensitive. With her neck variety and passion are the key, vary the intensity of your kissing, nibbling and licking and you will hear from her reaction how much she enjoys it.
Her Back: J’s back was one of the most surprising erogenous zones I discovered. The small of her back in particular, is rich in nerve endings and incredibly sensitive.
I use a well lubed hand to get the blood stirring here. There is a kundalini exercise of deep thumping massage as a means to open a woman’s pelvis and engorge it with blood, readying it for the deep penetration of a penis and making her receptive for the hot bath of your semen. I start by massaging her back for a great way to set the mood for kisses that might trail to other spots further down.
Not only does massaging her back relieve tension and help de-stress, it also increases the blood flow to pelvic region and increases its sensitivity.
While massaging her back don't forget to kiss and lick it, you will find that most women love this and particularly love having their spine kissed and licked; running your tongue up and down this area is very erotic.
Her Feet: They're a lot more sensitive than most people think. It depends on the lady. J loves having them massaged and rubbed but isn’t much on kissing or licking. I usually will start our foreplay by massaging her feet. For J it is deeply relaxing. Many women love having their toes sucked. The wonderful thing is that it is your job to figure out what does it for your lady.
Her Navel: This is another one of those love/hate zones. Find out if this tickles her fancy before you try it. If she's into it; use anything from your tongue to an ice cube. The area around the indentation of her bellybutton in particular is very sensitive to your tongue.
Her Legs: One of the most-ignored sexual hot spots in the female body is behind her knees. It’s also a place she might feel really ticklish. The skin behind her knees is an area that can experience intense sensual warmth either by kissing or gently licking.
Women’s inner thighs are some of the softest skin on their non sexual anatomy; her inner thighs have a huge amount of nerve endings and are extremely sensitive. J’s inner thighs in particular are exquisitely tender and receptive to my sexual attention. I usually lay her back and open her thighs and lavish them with kisses. The nicest thing about this position is that as she gets aroused she anticipates that I am going to trail down to her pussy and give her oral. But I relish teasing her and getting really close to her sweet spot but not touching it directly.
I will often spend a lot of time kissing and licking the crease between her groin and her thighs, alternating with sweet kisses on the sweet flesh of her thigh. There is a huge difference in the sensation in this crease at her abdomen and in the confined spot between her mons and her thigh. I will save the attention to her deep crease next to her mons when she is really worked up.
I also use my time in this very intimate spot to detect her vaginal scent. J’s vagina (and your lady’s) has a distinctly different scent at rest and in various stages of arousal. I can tell how turned on she is by taking a discrete sniff of her lips while I am in the neighborhood.
The ultimate tease when I am lavishing her crease with kisses is to blow hot breath on her pussy. She will usually be very turned on at this point so her vaginal lips will be open and the mouth of her vagina will be dilated, making its moist skin particularly sensitive to my warm breath. But be forewarned …it will be really tempting to lick or kiss her pussy lips now. Don’t!!! Trust me it will be worth it later; the goal now it to tease her to the pinnacle of arousal.
Buttocks and Anus: J like most women is self conscious about her bottom but deep down she wants me to appreciate it. However, she has no particular appreciation of having anything done to her bottom when we are working up to making love, except for one thing. When she is really - really worked up she loves to have me kiss her anus. She is not into anal sex, just gentle sweet kisses on her anal ring. I think it is the nastiness or the vulgarity of it that makes it such a turn on for her. When I kiss her there I pay special attention to the tender skin right at the opening. She is exquisitely sensitive there and a parry of sweet kisses will drive her into erotic chills and send pleasure waves deep into her pussy.
Her Breasts: Ok …we are getting close to the assault now, but you need to slow it down. Avoid going immediately to her nipples. The entirety of her breast is very sensitive from the bottom of her neck to the warm crease underneath it. In younger women her breasts will vary in sensitivity depending on where she is in her cycle. Learn this and memorize it. For some women stimulation of an aching nipple in a certain way is exquisitely erotic, for others it is painful. Learn how her system works and help her. Tender attention during an uncomfortable part of her monthy cycle or stimulatiuon (if she wants it) is part of what your relationship is about. Serve her.
Start by kissing small circles around her areolas and gradually spread them out; cup your hand gently under her breasts and hold them like they are treasures . . . they are. Kiss near or under her armpits and tongue her there giving her baby kisses. Her nipples may remain soft or they may harden. Enjoy them. Kiss them gently and watch them harden and change or relish their soft warmth; see what happens. Tease them, nip them, tongue then with the rigid tip of your tongue and eventually suckle them. Suck her whole nipple into your mouth and use your tongue to flatten it against the roof of your mouth. Massage the underside of her nipple with your tongue as you hold her there and gently suck her. This will stimulate her milk ducts and be both erotic and very relaxing. When J was pregnant and her nipples were sore I would massage them and suckle them; it would almost bring her to orgasm. The added treat was that the closer she got to delivery, the more frequently I would get a tongue full of colostrum.
Her Mons: J loves me to run my fingers through her pubic hair. She trims it very short. My sense from the site is that most women here are clean shaven; to each his or her own. I happen to love a frame of hair accentuating the cleanly shaved mouth of her vagina. Caressing the hair or gently massaging her mons is very exciting and pleasurable for J. I use two well lubed hands to knead and squeeze her fleshy mound. Carefully focused and applied pressure flexs her pussy lips and rubs her lips together without touching them. The skin of women’s vaginal openings are full of nerves, and the curae or legs of a woman’s clit runs down along the opening of her vagina. This flexing stimulates blood flow to her vaginal lips, clitoral legs and the mouth of her vagina, opening it and engorging them, making them hypersensitive.
Typically I am kneeling between J’s legs when I am massaging her mons. This is the ideal time to look into her eyes. Sometimes eye contact as I am massaging this most intimate of intimate spots is very hard for her. I have learned that the more aroused she is gets the easier it is to look deeply into my eyes as I am working the pleasure into the soft flesh of her womanhood.
By this time it is better than 99 % assured that her pussy will be swollen in arousal and the mouth of her vagina will be open and glistening with her natural lube.
This is the point where decisions are made as to what happens next. She has many ways of telling me that she is in the mood to be fucked, sometimes those ways are very subtle or sometimes she will very directly ask me to fuck her or how she wants to be fucked. Other times she will grasp my hardened penis and stroke it gently pulling it to her pussy.
Many times I will express my desire to go down on her by simply lowering my face to the warm wet lips between her thighs and making out with them with the same passionate kisses that I did on her mouth when we first lay down together.
But again . . . the key is not to begin to lick and suck her clit immediately but to use my mouth on her vaginal opening, her inner and outer lips, and the inner walls of her vagina to deliver sweet and gentle pleasure that makes her clit stretch itself out and glisten in its erected exposure, waiting for the caress of my loving mouth to bring it to a rapturous crescendo.
In any event whether we are going to fuck or whether I will coax her to a pussy twisting climax with my tongue, the careful preparation I have put into the expression of my lust and love for her will cause a rare and beautiful flower to bloom before my very eyes; a flower so lush and sweet that it proudly shows the promise of its divine pleasure in its glistening reddish - purple petals.
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