Some of the occasions that come to mind include a quickie before we were married at her best friends wedding rehearsal dinner in her friend’s parent’s bathroom. We had been apart that summer for 6 weeks when we got together for that wedding weekend, we were desperate. Then there was the time in 1987 after I had been in Washington DC for a two week training session. She came down to spend her long birthday weekend with me at the end of the two weeks, it was a very romantic time, cherry blossoms were out. I picked her up at the airport we kissed desperately in the terminal, we got a cab back to the hotel. Back in the room she tried to get undressed while I kissed her and groped her; eventually I ripped her panties off and ravished her on the floor. That escapade resulted in child number 3, now 22 years old. We jokingly almost named him Marriot after his place of conception.
A zip - less fuck is a thing that when you do it, it just feels right; and that’s ok. When your blood is boiling, your head is spinning and your cum is overflowing a quick fuck is all there is. So I say great ….go for it. I certainly have.
But then there are times with that special woman, that moment or that lady deserves more than a zipless fuck. I can’t tell you when the right time is, but you will know it. But I will tell you this, when it is appropriate to make love to her mind there wont be a question in your mind.
How do I know it? How do I know when its time to Make Love to J, to lay her on my bed, open her legs and fuck her mind? Sometimes it is the unexpected moments. I can be driving home from being away for the week and the last 30 miles from home seems like 300; all I can think of is her smile and what it feels like to hold her and squeeze her butt as I kiss her hello. It can be when we are working in the garden on a Saturday morning and we are listening to the radio as we weed; her back is bare because she is wearing a halter top that exposes her shoulders and outlines her sweet braless breasts. Her bare shoulders and back a re such a turn on for me. I will be sitting there in the dirt and suddenly realize that I haven’t heard a thing on the radio or plucked a single weed for the last 15 minutes because I have been staring at her sexy back. Or maybe its a quiet weekend around the house and she is putting away groceries in the cupboard and she stands on tiptoe and leans over to give me an unintended beautiful view of her perfectly heart shaped rear end as it curves inward over her hips to her waist. These times and many others, my breath will just get caught in my chest and my heart will skip a beat with the sight or thought of her.
Then there are other times that are intended to be romantic. I can think of many times that I will be sitting in a semi slouch on the couch with her back on my chest, her head on my shoulder and my arms around her as we watch something on TV. J melts when I hold her tightly, surrounding her with my arms and “protecting her” from all the junk of her day that is chasing her in her mind. I am a safe haven to hide in. Sometimes I will slip my hand under her blouse and free a breast from her bra and gently massage a nipple as she melts into my arms Or it could be a walk holding hands and talking after a long hard week . . . . us time out of the house.
Whatever the moment is I know it is an inspiring moment because from that second on all I can think about is bedding her that night and laying in the warmth between her thighs. I will think of nothing else for the rest of the day; all I will be able to focus on is later that night seductively lifting her night gown over her head and slowly sliding her panties down off her hips to reveal her dewy pink cleft. I will daydream of penetrating that sweet cleft in a very short while.
There is a crucial fork in the road that presents itself when she is naked and motivated. This is the time when the path for the evening can take one of two directions. One path is a slow sensuous path to the long awaited rapture of a slowly built up orgasm; a climax achieved through exercise of the erotic influence of my mind, my hands, my heart and my cock. The other path is a spontaneous mutual eruption inspired the vigorous exercise of my cock in her pussy and nothing else. Both alternatives have their place.
In this entry I want to talk about Making Love to Her Mind, or the stirring of her erotic soul to the point that the sex is almost secondary to the incredibly erotic ways that we express our passion and treat each other. This experience almost borders on tantric sex and indeed if anyone wants to take the tantric path I encourage you …it is a wonderful trip.
So here is Tenyn’s view on How to Make Love to Her Mind.
Step One: The very first step starts with you alone. She can be hundreds of miles away from you or she can be in the next room. Her physical presence is not necessary; in fact it can be a hindrance at this level. For this you need to get inside your own head. I call it putting her into your context. Who is she in your mind and in your heart; think about how important she is to you. Translate how you feel about her into raw emotion. What is it about her that makes her special? What would you do if you didn’t have her, what would be missing in your life?
A nude woman (of any shape) is one of the most beautiful things on the earth. Think about her body, think of it as a work of art, and envision her standing innocently before you revealing her soft sensual form to you wanton eyes. Think about her vulnerability (all women feel vulnerable some where down deep inside regardless of how strong they are) as she stands before you and think of the love, faith and trust that causes her to give herself to you so that you can share her erotic journey and the cock stiffening miracle of her sexual response.
After having done all this visioning mentioned above, keep her image in your mind as you kiss her, hold her, feel her and ultimately get into bed with her. She is the most amazing gift you will ever have . . . think of her and treat her that way.
Step Two: Slow down and don’t rush the expression of your ardor. For me this usually starts with removing her clothes. This is something that you need to do for her and to her. Some times while removing her clothes I will tenderly kiss her; with each piece of real estate that I uncover (except the girlie bits, they are off limits) I reward that revealed skin with a kiss. This process involves telling her how much I love her with my eyes, not my hands. As I undress her I show her the respect that I have for both her and her body. When she is totally revealed in her naked loveliness I kiss her tenderly all over . . . I do not miss one square inch of her body.
Sometimes J will collapse onto the bed at this point or sometimes she will just stand there. This is her time to be worshipped. Sometimes she will seductively lean her back against the wall as I kiss her all over. When she does that it requires great control on my part because she will thrust her pelvis and vulva forward; her down covered mons will be pushed forward just begging for the attention of my mouth and tongue. It is hard but I resist.
Step Three: My hands / her hands. Skin is so sensual yet we spend so little time exercising its ability to stir our arousal. Lay her on the bed and get a favorite moisturizing cream or oil. Explore her body tenderly and massage its soft sweetness with well oiled or creamed hands. Rub and knead her all over with special attention to her exquisitely sensitive places: soles of her feet, calves, butt, butt crack, lower back, nape of the neck and neck and pecs and biceps. Lastly do her hands. Firmly rubbing lotion into her hands is a very simple thing but for us it is so erotic.
With dry hands massage her scalp and around her hairline and massage her temples. Ever so gently with the tips of your fingers massage her eyelids and her forehead. As you finish each area kiss it, sealing into her skin the feeling you leave behind with the warmth of your lips. Again here girlie bits are off limits.
I can tell you that J.’s favorite part or this whole regimen are her feet, calves and hands. There are times that that is all I need to do for 20 - 40 minutes to convert her from living breathing woman into a puddle of girlie mush is massage her feet. If you do it right she will tell you that her body will be buzzing when you are done. The goal here is to get her as aroused as I can and heighten her erogenous sensitivity.
Step Four: We used to call it making out, now I prefer to call it sexing her up. It is the power of kisses. Duchess wrote a wonderful blog entry some months ago about kisses; I suggest reading it again if you did and if you didn’t read it now for the first time. In the context of Making Love to Her Mind, use your lips now to communicate exactly how you are feeling about her. Take the tension that by now has your heart racing, your balls in a knot and your cock throbbing and aching, and channel that erotic energy into your lips. Slow yourself down, take deep breaths and feel her lips with your own, and taste her mouth. In hale her sweet breath and savor its warmth. Use your lips to transfer the erotic energy that is bottled up inside of you, actually envision the energy passing thru your lips to hers and burning a path to her pussy.
Oftentimes at this point I will be sitting in the bed and I will be holding J. in my arms across my lap, sometimes with pillows on my lap and sometimes me just holding her around. I actually prefer the feeling of as much or her bare skin in contact with my arms and chest as possible. The advantage of pillows is that they leave my hands free to cradle her face and stroke it as I kiss her upturned lips.
POINT OF NOTE: Typically all that I have mentioned above we usually do in an hour to and hour and a half. Sometimes I actually loose track of time (especially when I massage her) and we can go for two hours. There have actually been times when she is so relaxed that we just decide to cuddle and go to bed at this point. There is nothing wrong with that. I have learned that orgasm for me is even sweeter when it is delayed. It is a worthwhile sacrifice to delay my gratification if I can leave her so relaxed and in love with what I have done for her. A woman will remember your earnest expression of love and devotion; an investment in her erotic sense of self at this point will come back in dividends later on. Her erotic love given back to you in earnest appreciation of how she feels about you is ten times more intense and pleasurable for both of you than a pity fuck because you begged her or made her when she wasn’t really into it. Her warm feelings will result in the gift of her hungry pussy, yearning for the insistant stimulation of your cock.
Step Five: Show her you mean sexy business. Everything up to this point was warm up. Now is the time for the main event.
One of the things that I (sort of) borrowed from Tantric Sex is permission. In Tantric Sex when you are at this point you ask permission to caress, love and eventually penetrate her. I don’t do that, but instead I put my lips to her ear and ever so softly in her ear I will whisper in the most descriptive terms I can muster what I am going to do to her vagina, her clit and her nipples as well as all the other sexy parts of her sweet body. In between I kiss her neck, her temple and her forehead. Typically I will tell her to put her sweet body in my trust, and to open her legs to reveal her precious pussy to me and my mouth and let me elevate her arousal to the point that she will be aching for the penetration of my hardened penis. I will often describe to her the heat and hardness of my cock and tell her to think about my stiffened male flesh burrowing into the depth of her pussy. I encourage her to think of my hard shiny manhood as I slowly slide it into the hair fringed crown of her femininity.
This is one of the only times that I will not succumb to the strong desire to go down on her and use my tongue to delve into her, flick and massage her clit and make her squirm as I stroke her G spot with the firm pressure of my finger. As much as I would love to, this is not about cunnilingus it’s about making love with my cock and having her grasp the fullness of my cock in her canal, deep inside her with the ultimate goal of bringing bliss to the quivering mouth of her pussy. I will push her arousal until the glowing heat of need burrows into the depths of her vagina and spreads its agonizing desire through her belly and up to her chest. I will watch as her nipples pucker in teltale revelation of the bliss that is enveloping her body; I will watch as the heat of pending climax takes root in her vagina and spreads its tentacles to touch every sexy nerve in her feminine furrow.
At this point it’s about pushing her arousal as hard as I can; I will suckle and kiss her nipples and lick and kiss all of her erogenous spots. I will massage her asshole and tease it. After 38 years I know them all and I visit them all. The only mouth contact will typically come now, when again I will whisper in her ear that I am going to slather her clit with kisses in appreciation for her love and then I tell her exactly how I am going to penetrate her. And then I do it. I part her lips and pull her clitoral hood back fully to expose her pearl and I kiss it tenderly and gently with moist lips. No licking allowed, these kisses are a show of affection, admiration and devotion.
Step Six: OES. If you can do it, this is the time to have very very slow open eyed sex. I will ever so slowly slide in and out of her, like she is a cello and I am drawing my bow along her strings to draw the resonant and sonorous music of rapture from her throat. As I am drawing in and out of her I am telling her how much I love her. If you have ever rocked a baby to sleep this is a close comparison. The goal here is not orgasm; it is for me to savor the wet, warm, soft caress of the inside of her pussy and for her to engage mentally with the sensation of caressing my thick, hard, hot cock inside of her. This is the time when sexual souls are bared; as her arousal grows, her inhibitions tend to drop and erotic expression becomes easier. The hotter she gets the filthier she gets.
At times she will be writhing twitching and moaning explicatives. Raw emotions and the intensity of my love is easier for me to express, I do it openly. The goal here is to delay climax by going agonizingly slowly and use my mind, my voice and my eyes to talk her into ecstasy. I tell her how beautiful she is to me, how sexy her pussy looks and how amazing the inside of her body feels. I tell her how my cock feels buried deep inside her hot wet hole, I don’t ask her anything tell her.
Some times here I will engage one of her fantasies and tell her that I am some one else; I will say that I am this fantasy man who she has thought about and that I am him and I am enjoying fucking her while her husband is gone. I will tell her how much I have always wanted to fuck her. I am going to drive her to the brink of her sanity as I fuck her hard.
Step Seven: Climax. J. usually needs help to climax, this is where a finger comes in handy or intermittently a tongue for short suckles and flicks. I will do everything I can to her that I know will help her get to the brink. I can tell that she is there because when she is she cannot keep her eyes open. She will flap her jaw and jut out her chin as if she is mouthing silent words and she will groan.
She has a very sensitive clit, but this the only time that it will take firm stimulation. When she is ready to cum I will bury my full ten inches into her so that I can feel her cervix with my cockhead. I will then tweak and rub and encircle her glans with a lubricated finger, keeping the hood pulled back to fully expose her pearl. When the orgasm drills into her it will grasp her pussy and squeeze it hard. When she cums she will shake, shudder and moan as the rapture washes over her in waves. When she is at that point I will begin to thrust into her; typically she will start to come down just as I am starting to pierce her and pull back. My firm penetration and withdrawal is usually enough to push her to her second orgasm; thrusting is usually all it takes to get her off again, she needs no other help.
I will usually tell her when I am going to cum and I will ask her to look at my face as I give her a full ration of my cum. As she accepts the liquid testimony of my passion for her deep inside her body, she will often look into my eyes with dazed confusion and profound and intense bliss as her orgasm recedes. My goal now is to give her every drop of my anguished ardor in liquid form and squirt it into her as hard as I can. Sometimes I pound her and sometimes it is just firm and tender thrusting until I boil into her.
The power of my ejaculation at this point is formidable, particularly if my release has been delayed. The longer I delay the fuller and more forceful my ejaculation will be. She has told me that she can sometimes feel it splashing inside of her.
When it is over, we will lay in each others arms and stroke each others faces and kiss tenderly in appreciation.
When people ask me what has kept us together for 38 years, I say it’s a lot of things. Its my respect for her, love for her, admiration for her skills and abilities, my appreciation for everything she does for me, my admiration for her sexy body (at 58 she is every bit as sexy as she was at 22 only more sophisticated) ; but one of the things that has most certainly contributed . . . is the deeply moving experience of Making Love to Her Mind.
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