Firstly, there's always the question of pain or discomfort. Yes, you're stretching the interior and exterior sphincters (and yes, there are two of them) around a male penis, and that stretch, like any muscle stretching, will cause the receiving partner to feel a burn or a sting upon initial entry. But there are certain things you, as the giving partner, and certain things the receiving partner can do to minimize and even eliminate that, which I'll detail later.
Secondly, there's the question of pleasure. Certainly, the giving partner will be receiving incredible pleasure - he has his dick stuffed inside a hot, tight, very muscular, caressing, loving tube of flesh. The human rectum is lined from one end to the other with muscle, as this is how the body excretes waste. That muscular channel, as the giving partner is thrusting back and forth, is massaging and grasping at the penis inside it, particularly at the moment of orgasm of the receiving partner; the rectum and the sphincters of the anus begin to ripple in rhythm to the orgasmic pulses the receiving partner experiences, alternately clenching and relaxing on the cock inside, and the pleasure really has to be felt to be believed. My boyfriend describes it as, "It feels like your hot, tight ass is drawing me inside, a clenching wave rolling from the base of my dick all the way to my head, pulling me into your body!"
So let's talk to the receiving partner for a moment. Enough about the giving partner - we all know they're going to love fucking you in the ass. What about you?
I would offer that there are three somewhat broad categories of people when it comes to receiving anal sex:
One, you just hate it. Maybe hate is too strong a word; you dislike it. You have physical, emotional, or psychological discomfort at the mere thought. If you actually got to the point of performing the act, you wind up hating, or at least not enjoying, any moment of it. Perhaps it's a physical pain - that can be fixed, as we'll note below - because you're tight, you're not relaxed, and you just don't feel like your asshole was made to accept a penis. Maybe you are emotionally or psychologically uncomfortable with the idea, and when you're getting fucked, you'd just rather be doing anything else. Perhaps you have philosophical problems with the idea. If you're in this category, you'll probably never submit to the act, and if you ever do, you may decide you never want to do it again. It doesn't bring you any pleasure, but it does cause you plenty of physical pain and/or mental anguish. I would offer that if you find yourself in this category, just be content to pursue other acts of sexual pleasure, and let your partner know, gently, that you're just not interested in the slightest.
Two, you don't hate anal sex, but you don't get any pleasure from it, either. If you're in this group, you might submit to being penetrated because you know how much your partner wants it. You don't feel any discomfort or emotional stress from getting fucked in the ass, but it just doesn't do anything for you, there's no sexual fulfillment there for you, and it just feels like you're "going to the bathroom." For you, anal sex may never be that thrilling, fulfilling, bonding experience some feel with their partner, but you'll continue to offer it to your lover because you adore him and you want him to be happy.
Third, you simply ADORE anal sex! You're highly anally aroused, and the mere thought of getting fucked in the ass, the slight touch of your partner's finger on your anus, the nervous anticipation as you feel his greased cockhead nuzzle your snug rosebud, really gets your sexual juices flowing! When your lover pushes his big dick into you, slowly filling your rectum with his hot, hard flesh, you feel no discomfort or emotional stress. Instead, you feel a loving warmth rush through your body; you feel blissfully, delightfully full; and for you, there's simply no act that equals the intimacy, the excitement, and the fulfillment you experience when your lover fucks you in the ass. You feel a peace, a comfort, and yes, a delicious naughtiness, when you give yourself to your partner this way, and as he's fucking you, you feel wonderfully stuffed, full of his warm cock, coupled to him in the most intimate way possible. When he pulls out of you, you suddenly feel alone, and achingly empty, and you desperately want him to push his cock back into you, to feel loved and full again.
One guess as to which of the three categories I'm in! Yes, I'm highly anally aroused, and have known I was so since before puberty. I love getting fucked in the ass.
Now let's talk about the possibility of pain or discomfort, and the ways to prepare for and enjoy anal sex.
I don't experience any pain or discomfort during anal sex. My boyfriend is eight inches, and a full two inches thick, and I take him balls-deep with ease. Further, he's an aggressive alpha-male top with a particular fondness for slam-fucking, and I'm a power bottom who loves taking his dick up my ass as hard and as fast as he needs to pound me. And as long, too - he has unbelievable stamina, sometimes fucking me for 45 minutes straight and cumming in me twice without ever pulling out or getting soft. He is a magnificent lover! Yes, I'm lucky to have him, but he considers himself quite lucky to have me, too.
So, am I "loose?" Hardly! I can clamp down on him and lock his cock in me so tightly he'll nearly pass out with pleasure. I've even left purple bruise rings on his dick on a few occasions.
An anal sex virgin, or one who receives anal sex rarely, will probably feel some discomfort, and perhaps even pain. For a person who takes a cock, or a dildo, in the ass very rarely, the sphincters, just as with any muscle, tighten and resist penetration. In the case of a virgin, this is simply because they are being opened and penetrated for the first time. If you are introducing your lover to anal sex, as the penetrating partner, there are things you can do to minimize or even eliminate any pain or discomfort, and make the act of anal intercourse pleasurable for both of you.
First of all, anal sex isn't the best act for those spontaneous sessions. It's always best if the receiving partner has the opportunity to prepare. This entails voiding well, and rinsing out with a simple warm water enema a few times. Being clean - inside and out - will help the receiving partner be more relaxed, having the confidence that nothing unpleasant will happen. Rinsing the rectum, however, also washes away much of the natural mucous lubrication, so use a good-quality lubricant, and use plenty of it, but not so much that things become sloppy. After I rinse out, I use a child's medicine dosage syringe to pump a generous teaspoon or so of Astroglide gel inside me a few minutes before I join my boyfriend in bed for an added measure of lubrication. Of course, before he fucks me, either he or I will lube up his big cock thoroughly, and as he enters me, he'll also spread that additional dosage of lube throughout my rectum, making my love tunnel slick and sexy.
I also prepare ahead of time, after I've rinsed out, by pushing a buttplug up my ass, slipping it in and out several times over a few minutes, then wearing it around for 10 or 15 minutes. This helps considerably in stretching and relaxing the sphincters, preparing them to accept penetration more easily and comfortably. This isn't really a requirement, and I don't do it always, but I know some days my man just has that animal need to shove his dick into me and empty his balls in my "pussy" the moment he sees me. By preparing myself this way, he's perfectly free to stuff he cock up my ass and pound away with little or no foreplay, and I'm perfectly comfortable - indeed, I'm in heaven - with his magnificent meat plowing me! Often times I don't do this, occasionally just because I want him to have that delightful sensation of pushing into my very tight ass, and sometimes because I can't, if I'm meeting him at lunch or after work for a quickie, for example.
If you're an anal virgin, though, I would recommend skipping the buttplug or dildo, and going straight to breaking that cherry - gently and lovingly - with the penetrating partner's cock. That will make that first act of anal intercourse so much more intimate and memorable.
So, what is a guy who really wants to get his dick up his girl's - or his guy's - virgin ass to do? Or, if they aren't an anal virgin, but they want to offer themselves to you, but haven't had anal sex in a very long time, and want to poke their toes back into those waters?
First, let's start with position. One of the best to start with is missionary. With a pillow under the receiver's ass to get some elevation, and her (we'll assume for simplicity now that it's a woman) legs spread high and wide, the pelvic floor is naturally opened and relaxed in this position. Another good position for beginners is cowgirl; she can sit on your cock and be in control of how much and how fast she takes it. Doggie is not the best position for an anal newbie.
Now she's in bed and ready for you. She's got her legs spread high and wide, with her ankles behind her head (you lucky son of a bitch), her bare pussy is dripping, and her cute little asshole is just begging for your big cock. What do you do?
If you shove your dick up her ass and start banging away, she'll probably hate every minute of it, your cock will never again enjoy the blissful, warm confines of your girl's tight butt, and you might even get hit with a restraining order!
Take her slowly, gently, and lovingly. Lube up your cock thoroughly, and gently press against her hole. It helps here if she consciously relaxes her sphincters to let you in. As you slip into her, her muscular rings will stretch around your cock, and she will feel that sting, that burn. DON'T attempt full penetration yet! Listen to her, and do what she says. If she wants you out, pull your cock out of her. Your goal - for both of you - is to get the muscles to stretch, to relax, and to accept your cock. After holding an inch or two of your cock in her for a few seconds, pull out, and let her relax. After 10 or 15 seconds, when she's ready, push into her again. She will again feel that sting as your cock stretches her asshole. Hold it in her, then pull out and let her relax again. Be patient, and gentle, and repeat this several times over a few minutes, and she will reward you. When she's relaxed and ready, you'll push into her, and she won't feel that sting anymore, as her muscular rings have stretched and become used to the penetration. She'll begin to feel a wonderful and sensual warmth as you slowly fill her, and you'll both be ready to enjoy the ecstasy of anal sex. She's ready for you to start fucking her at this stage, and she shouldn't feel any pain or discomfort.
Now that she's "broken in," and she feels pleasure with your cock buried in her butt, you can move on to different positions and different stroking techniques. A personal favorite of mine that's also great for shower sex - I LOVE standing, bending over, grabbing my ankles, and getting "long-stroked," as my boyfriend calls it - with his dick buried in me, he grabs my hips, pulls out until only the cockhead is inside (or for advanced bottoms, pulls out all the way, leaving me gaping), then shoves his entire length balls-deep back in me, and repeat; the incredible sensations of being achingly empty to blissfully stuffed, over and over again, are deliciously mind-blowing! I absolutely love the cowgirl position; lubing up my boyfriend's big dick, that dick he's about to sodomize me with, as he lays back, relaxing, is a deliciously submissive thing to do. Straddling him and sitting on that thick cock, feeling him slowly fill me as I slide down his pole, impaling myself on his flesh, is incredible. Spooning is wonderfully intimate, loving, and romantic. One of our very favorites is a modification of the spoon where I'm on my side in an "L" shape, and he's "on his haunches," with his heels under his ass, and his thighs spread around my ass, one along my thighs and one along my back - the "modified T-square" position. This position, in particular, is so relaxing, so comfortable, and so perfect for me, I've told him he could fuck me in the ass all night if he wanted to. Another favorite is the spoons-face-down position, where I'm flat on the bed on my stomach, with my legs slightly spread, and he lays on top of me with his cock buried in me, his weight and warmth a comforting blanket as he slowly and lovingly humps my ass.
That's about it! Enjoy anal sex with your girl! Or your guy!
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