Posted by TheKingOfCats , Thu Sep 06, 2012 09:36 PM
My purpose in writing this was to lay out a plan that had worked from me with very little effort. For the benefit of those who have tried and failed, or don’t know a way to go about it discreetly. Maybe, I’ve left in too many details. I’ve received a lot of criticism about the length and how boring it is…noted. It is a true story and all the details I’ve given I believe somehow gave me a competitive edge. No rose tinted glasses. I will admit that I’m not a pro at this and maybe I had beginners luck.
A lot of haters out there…duly noted. :( I’ve posted this story on a couple of sex forums and find it surprising to find so many judgmental peeps out there… obviously Republicans, have a nice life and leave us alone.
Lastly, folks… the title is how I found a fwb “Online”…Hello! … don’t need to hear your put downs and tell me that you can go to any pick-up bar and bring someone home… good for you! … But it’s not the subject of my experience.
If you’ve had success on meeting strangers for sex online, I’d appreciate it if you added to the discussion. This is about helping the uninformed, confused & lost.
So when last talking about our adventure, our hero had devised a plan and strategy to discreetly find a partner “online” for a no strings attached sexual encounter, in my case a so called ‘friend with benefits”.
After devising a carefully crafted ad in a fee “list” all was go and I waited eagerly for all the multitude of responses I would receive. How could I go wrong? I was methodical, did my research, took tips from the pros, there was no way this would fail.
OK, things were not so good at first. Kept checking my mail (like every hour in the beginning)… nothing. ?? Eventually, once in a while there would be a response. My advice to the novice… respond with caution. There are many unscrupulous folks out there just trying to rip you off. In this case it’s in the form of a “bot”. A program crawling the “list”, automatically generating responses in the form of an interested partner, all for the purpose of getting your email to blast you with ads for anything under the sun… and that’s the least harmful result.
So how to avoid the sexy “bot”?. .. ask yourself, has this email actually considered anything about my ad in particular? Is the response “tight”? … meaning leaving no doubt that you’re about to bag this one in one shot. Is it too slick? … artfully worded and hip. Without so much as a handshake she’s willing to send you a pic (totally hot)…but she needs to keep it a secret?? Have they asked a question unique to my ad? Don’t get carried away with the excitement, sit back and ask yourself the question for a couple of moments. Have they addressed anything in particular to what I said about myself?
So I received about six responses, all of which I deemed generic and simply ignored.
You have to repost your ad every couple of days in order for it to appear fairly recent.
Then, just after two weeks or so I felt my luck had changed when I received a response that had me thinking, “this is a real person!” She said she lived fairly close to me and gave a nearby town (ok, that’s good, but not full-proof) Secondly, she wanted to know, since I had older children and from the wording of my ad, if I had had a vasectomy. (That my friend is a very good sign)
So, I know I’m now dealing with someone that actually read my ad. But that’s it, nothing else. They could be who they say they are. Could be something entirely different…. Such as another man. ?? They could be an escort… which I was not looking for. Another step I had taken to give myself a little more assurance was to see where the email came from. I typed a short little response, thanking her and asked a short question or two and waited for a response. I received one. I used gmail at the time and what I had done was to select view full header on the email she responded. In it you will find the ip address of the server which first sent the mail. It won’t tell you exactly where the person is located, but it will give a general location. The full header can be rather cumbersome, you need to scan it for something like “Received: from 220.127.116.11”. Then do a search for an ip address locator, voila… you get the location. In this case everything was looking good. It came back with a location in the general area.
Now bolstered by the info I became more earnest in my pursuit. We communicated just a couple of times responding with short and simple responses. In this case it was easy because her needs for discretion were similar to mine. In our second correspondence, perhaps after feeling me out as a real person (as compared to a “bot”), she gave a general description of herself which was more general than precise accept one feature. “30’s MWF 5’2” nice curves”… and oh boy… “busty”…size “DD”. :blink: YES!! So you understand I had to pause here… this was a dream come true… wait…. Was it? She didn’t give me any info about her weight…ah, be careful there my boy… you’re not too much into the BBW’s …sometimes, but not always.
She was quick to get to the kill. I guess there’s not much sense in dragging things out, and it was time for the revel. She started focusing on our first meeting, and we started making plans to do so. This is why we’re in it. I wanted to see those “DD’s”:P
I was on my own still, had that apartment. My plan was to meet in a public place somewhere safe with lots of people around. This way bailing would be easy and exiting the scene if need be would be without incident. If I liked what I saw I could engage, talk a bit, ask a couple of on the spot questions so I could see the reaction. And if everything was a go, I’d offer her to check out the crib or at least make a plan for the next meeting.
So we confirmed a date and time. We were to meet in a food court in a mall that I know rather well. I told her what location I’d be in and what I’d be wearing while drinking a Starbucks frap. She could seat herself at my table or next to me depending on her comfort level. She was married, and discretion was a priority. Never know who you will run into at a local mall.
Best part was, If I didn’t meet her standards of attraction, or If I felt the same we could just abort. No harm no foul. Remember, always stay in control and don’t change your plan.
Folks I’m short on time. I’ll be finishing with part 3 about the meeting and how the mission was completed in about a week. Hard to find the time.
Again, look forward to your comments.