With the new guy it's completely different... Perhaps it's his looks, as he's a pretty big stud, and he doesn't mind entertaining certain curiosities, despite the fact he's not gay at all.. Women gravitate towards him, and I'll get a look of "Oh I'm sorry is he yours? in mid whatever. At first I just laughed at the irony, thinking that he'll feel his "is this really happening moment" when he sees me in some position.... But despite us going regularly on Saturday nights to a Swingers party, as well as a usual after party, he seems happy as a clam with everything. So we've been pushing the envelope, he's very curious as to how things work, and what are the do's and don'ts, but it doesn't seem to stop him from having him in the middle of whatever is going on, while I'm generally on the side just messing around with onlookers. I think my jealousy is two-fold, the fact that it's my partner, as well as thefact that I miss when it was all about me! Sounds immature, I know... I guess that's what happens when you're the one guiding the newbie, and he also happens to be a pretty laid back, funny as hell (he has a thick southern accent) type of guy.. Helps that he's a firefighter and works out all day... But yea, have any girls felt this jealousy at their men being basically taken over by what we would call "cougars"? Is it just me being territorial?