Well yesterday I finally learned about it. I'm not crazy. My clit IS different than most other women. It's hypersensitive. It's how most women's clitoris feels just as/after they orgasm. And when I give my man a blow job, just after if he cums if I continue to suck him he will occasionally pull back and kind of wince. It's the exact same phenomenon.
So now I know that I'm not imagining it. I know what is going on. And I read that the way to stimulate a clitoris like mine is simply to stimulate around it. Well I've always done that! So that's a clitoral orgasm! But knowing that still doesn't help the fact that I have to tell a new partner,"don't touch my clit" when that's probably the only female pleasuring "skill" he knows leaving him frustrated and me embarrassed.