It's been eight years now that I've been married to m wife. When I first met she was the sex animal all men dreamed about. You know, the kind that was game for anything in the bedroom... Even a little ass play from time to time. that was such a turn on... Not like she was just crazy about letting me stretch her out but she would ask me from time to time “you want some ass" or she would ask me to “stick you finger in it" during sex so she could orgasm. I became comfortable with the fact that I wasn't going to get to play in her ass all the time, it was something like a special treat, something exotic. But yet the exotic special treats had started to become farther in between... Sometimes started turning into a year and now it's been two years... What has happened? Why can't I play anymore? She recently gave me a shot at it and I tried to be as slow & gentle as possible. I had bought some anal beads,lube and anal ease... I was trying to make sure I got in this forbidden place. But it's almost like the hole has shrunk, my dick has grown... I don't know what to think other than its a mind thing. Now she says my finger hurts. What's a guy to do?