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Pleasure from the Mastery of Cunnilingus
If you can get a woman to hold still for it, stick your face down there (or look at the illustration) – see, it’s that spot where it goes from the flat part of her Mons (see above), and starts to rise up. Sometimes it’s a lot better for you to stroke this part than the clitoris (below it), because some women are just too sensitive on the clit itself. This is a good opportunity to remember an important point about women during sex: A little bit often goes a long way. p Women enjoy and respond to soft, gentle, varied and drawn out touching, caressing, and sex. Don’t rush it, don’t be rough – why do you think women like chick flicks instead of action movies?
The Clitoral Shaft
Much like the front commissure, the clitoral shaft lies beneath the skin. It’s one of the more sensitive parts of the vulva, other than the clitoris itself. If a woman is sensitive, sweeping the flat of your tongue with a soft, gentle pressure on the clitoral shaft can help arouse her and make her cum.
The Clitoral Hood
Okay, this is important if you’re going to be eating pussy. You should be both cautious and careful around, and on, the clitoral hood. If not, you can find yourself lessening the likelihood of her orgasm, instead of helping her build to one. The hood protects the clitoris from unwanted sensation – remember, with over 8,000 nerve endings, it’s really easy to do too much stimulating. The clitoris is REALLY sensitive – think \"getting kicked in the balls\" for the girl, if you don’t treat it right. Some touches can just be too much on the clitoris and may hurt her. The hood’s job is essentially to obstruct you from touching the clit itself, and it actually moves to achieve that. When a woman’s orgasm builds, the hood pulls back to allow greater stimulation. If the hood is covering the clit, lick in downward strokes over it, or gentle circles around it. This can help to excite your lover, by increasing her access to stimulation. If the hood moves back over her clit, but she’s obviously building to an orgasm – moaning, head rocking from side to side, hands grabbing the sheets, etc. – that’s good, but DON’T poke your tongue under the hood, she doesn’t need any more stimulation of her clit. Just lick around it, and on and around the hood. Her body is reacting as it should to help her cum!
With 8,000 nerve endings, the woman’s clit has far more sensory receptors than any other part of the human body, including a man’s penis, which takes second place at 4,000 nerve endings. That’s why any guide to the sexual aspects of the female body will have at least some reference to its importance. You can take guidance from that priority, to be certain that the clitoris is the key to a woman’s sexual happiness. Unlike the penis, though, the clit has no other function than to bring a woman pleasure – can you imagine that? As a result, it is generally very, very good at that one task – which means, if you can unlock the potential for pleasure hidden within it, you will have a very, very happy woman on your hands. Probably one who will do anything that she can to make you happy in return. Because it is so wondrously sensitive, though, any direct contact with the clit has the potential to actually be painful – an overload of sensation, you could say. Your goal, as a ‘cunning linguist,’ should be to provide pleasurable sensation in that area of her body, but never to go over the edge of over-stimulation. The clitoral hood protects the clitoris, and actually moves, advancing over it and retracting, something like the roof over a football or baseball stadium, as circumstances warrant. Normally, the clit is well covered, but as a woman’s excitement increases, the hood retracts to expose the hungrynlittle clit to more pleasurable sensations. The clitoris itself may seem difficult to find, because, just like the penis, the tip on the exterior of the woman’s body can vary in size from very small, to noticeably larger when excited, and swollen with blood (though much tinier than the male’s version of the clitoris, the penis.) It will always be found just under the hood. Just as with the penis, it doesn’t matter whether it’s big or small, sensitivity of the clit is not dependent on size. The entire extent of the clit is not just that little organ peeking out from under the hood, it actually extends under the vulva, around and along the labia, back through the perineum (the skin between the fourchette and anus) – sensitive nerve endings accompanying it, which helps to explain why this area is so rich in erogenous zones, and why the right touch in this entire area is so pleasurable to a woman.
The frenulum, where the labia meet at the top, is the beginning of the inner labia. It is comprised of tissue much like that of the labia themselves, and possesses delicate nerve endings that are a rich source of delight to a woman if massaged and handled carefully. The Labia Minora and Labia Majora These parts, commonly called the \"lips,\" are a nice source of pleasure when licked and caressed, and are not as sensitive as the clit itself. The labia minora, also known as the \"inner lips,\" and the labia majora, also known as the \"outer lips,\" act as protection for the vaginal opening. More to the point of this guide, however, a woman will discover that they are an extremely pleasurable area for a man’s tongue and lips to express his affection. Why restrict yourself to just the area around the clit, when you can both enjoy the feel of your mouth on her lips, too?
The Vaginal Opening
Also known as \"vagina,\" \"pussy,’ \"cunt\". It’s where the baby comes out – but, of course, you knew that (I hope!) and has been voted as the majority of men’s ‘favorite female organ’ year after year in polls. For women, the G-spot, located about where the rear view mirror is on your car, is a great source of additional pleasure. Most women like feeling a finger, or a penis, dildo or tongue inside her vaginal opening, although probably not to quite the level of screaming ecstasy that erotic videos might lead you to believe. It’s still great, though!
Located at the lower side of the vagina, this is the equivalent of the frenulum, with nerve endings that can bring noticeable pleasure. Because of its location so much closer to the anus, some women and men might be uncomfortable with this area being licked and tongued. Talk to her if she displays discomfort with your attention there, and be open to the sounds she may make, and to her movements to understand how she’s accepting your attention there. If she has previously had an episiotomy (a surgical cut made through the fourchette to allow an easier vaginal delivery), she will likely be very sensitive here, and not enjoy the touch of your tongue on this area. Know your female partner well enough, or at least communicate with her enough to be aware of this history, or you might find her leaping out of bed from pain or the shock of your touch there.
This is the area of skin lying between the anus and the fourchette. It can be an incredibly sensitive and erotic area to caress and massage, and to kiss if you’re both willing, but it requires communication and understanding on the part of both partners, as there may be considerable inhibition about oral and near anal contact, or even about just near anal contact of any sort, even just the fingers.