“I didn’t shag her.”” “dude, you did at least ask, didn’t you?”
How do you ever expect to get sex, if you don't ask people? This seems to be a growing problem. I've met men and women, both whom are beautiful and confident people, who will humm and arrr about the situation and wait until both of my hands are inside their pants before they'll finally realise and admit that yes, they're probably going to get a shag.
I even once had a girl, a supposedly dominating girl. Attempting to spank me with wooden clothes hanger until my ass was black and blue, me stripping her naked and fingering her so hard that she nearly pissed in my hands, and still had to ask for my permission before she jumped on top of me and got the fuck she'd been begging me for since we first met. I think part of this is the fault of the aggressive, rude, “I’m out of your league” people, who leave some people’s confidence so bruised after approaching someone that it’s surprising they can continue with their night without the mental battle scar.
They see sex as a gift that the other person might want to give in to them if they’re just impressive, kind or just sexy enough. They feel like they have to earn it. They don’t seem to realise that the other person often want sex too just for its own sake. A person no more ‘lets you’ have sex with them than you ‘let people’ give you birthday presents.
People should be more open to requests for sex and receiving requests, regardless of the answer they are going to give.