need your insight please
Posted Tue Aug 30, 2011 02:33 AM
Am I being too negative about this whole situation? Am I the only woman who would feel uncomfortable about my BF sharing an apartment with another woman?
I tried porn, sex toys, role play, sexy clothing, being supportive, cook for him, bring him lots of surprises every time i see him....I really tried everything to bring the passion back and I really don't know what else to try.
Posted Tue Aug 30, 2011 03:04 AM
Posted Tue Aug 30, 2011 03:27 AM
yet, he is your boyfriend...he should have been more sensitive
..i mean....living with another girl...in the same apratment,.....along with his "not receiving phone calls" behaviour...
i am afraid that it appears you and your boyfriend need a conversation about it...
Posted Tue Aug 30, 2011 03:36 AM
if it is a lost cause, then its better that find out the earliest and be able to move on with your sweet life. Sorry if I am being too straight, but believe me that may be the best in the long run. Good Luck to you.
Posted Tue Aug 30, 2011 03:55 AM
Posted Tue Aug 30, 2011 07:20 AM
Posted Tue Aug 30, 2011 10:55 AM
Everyone deals with grief in their own fashion, but it really doesn't sound like this is a case of him being emotionally unavailable to you due to grieving. This sounds to me like him using convenient excuses that are at-hand to keep you on the "back burner", so to speak, while he sees how things develop (if they haven't already) with this roomate.
Forgetting to call you back once? Sure, okay. All the time? C'mon now, buddy.
Make like coitus interruptus and pull out, is my advice.
You deserve better, and I hope you find it. Looks like the best place to look, however, is elsewhere.
Posted Tue Aug 30, 2011 01:59 PM
We had many long talks already on his medication problem and about his father's death. I totally understand that he will need a long time to heal from losing his dad and I told him I will be there for him as long as he needed me. I even put my job on hold to spend more time with him so he won't be alone, he even told me that he knows I am trying very hard to make our relationship work.
I have already asked him why things got worse between us after hes moved into this new apartment. I told him right from the start that i didn't like him moving in with another girl. I told him it really bothered me that he didn't want to pick up my calls and told me he was busy. I asked him why did she have to call him and talked for 10 mins mean while he wouldn't even want to talk to me for no more than 2 mins. His answer was I shouldn't be jealous over this as she was just being nice to remind him about things. I asked him why as soon as he moved in, she broke up with her BF and his said she always have new BF. I asked him why he wouldn't get close to me when ever she was around and he said he was not in the mood. I told him that any normal girl would think he's treating me like this has to do with his roommate. He told me there was nothing between them then why he would tell me nobody's home except him and I could hear her in the background. I wanna trust him but all these lies made me suspicious. I want to move on but i love him and really care about him and he said he still wants me to be there for him. I've scheduled an appointment for him to see a therapist next week and hope that would help him. I can be there for him all the way but I couldn't convince myself to believe he didn't do anything with his roommate. the bad part is I don't have any proof so I don't even know what to do.