Posted Fri Mar 16, 2007 04:59 PM
Posted Fri Mar 16, 2007 05:40 PM
When you talk to a girl about it don't label it a fetish, or call it weird, or apologize for it. Just talk about what you like. It can just be a sincere part of your communication about sex.
Honestly when you think about the things people say to each other when they are talking about the ways they want to have sex, adding a few nice thoughts about feet doesn't seem that exotic.
Posted Fri Mar 16, 2007 06:16 PM
Posted Fri Mar 16, 2007 06:40 PM
Posted Fri Mar 16, 2007 08:48 PM
Open the line of communication and have fun!
Posted Fri Mar 16, 2007 08:55 PM
Posted Sat Mar 17, 2007 07:26 PM
Posted Mon Mar 19, 2007 03:16 PM
She'll be on her belly, legs close, with a toy taking care of her. Her feet will be hanging off the edge of the bed. Lube them up and slide on in betweeen them. She loves it too.
Posted Tue Mar 20, 2007 10:34 AM
Posted Tue Mar 20, 2007 12:44 PM
Posted Tue Mar 20, 2007 06:45 PM
I really love feet, they are a huge turn on, though I've only been able to broach the sublect with my SO once..
We were in this hot tub and her feet kind of made their way over to my stuff. (I was actually praying they would!) and I made it a huge point to say that it felt really good so she continued to rub and kept asking me how it felt. I said it was awesome and we should take it to the bedroom. So we did, and she totally gave me a (somewhat passive, I had to basically guide her all the way) footjob. I never finished this way, but it was like heaven. I think I was too nervous to enjoy it.
Well, I was excited to have finally broke the ice on the foot subject so the next week I had just got done doing one of her favorite things and she asked me what I wanted. I told her "that thing we did last week in the hottub" and she totally went along with, but again I had to do a lot of explaining and such.
I think she felt kind of wierd but obliged anyways.
This was a few months ago and I haven't had the courage to bring the subject up again. After that night she did offer to do it a couple of times for a special occasion, but I felt wierd accepting.
I feel she did it to please me , but I feel it felt wierd to her so I'm reluctant to bring it up again. She has to know that her feet drive me wild as I'm always giving her foot massages, rubbing her feet, saying how nice her feet look after a pedicure, etc.. I'll sit and give her an hour long foot massage with her other foot right in my crotch as we sit on the couch and make it a point to put it there. She can't be oblivious :-)
We live together and have for about a year and a half, so it's not like we're not comfortable. I guess I just feel uncomfortable with this particular subject. We have gotten through hugely difficult issues together, so I'm usually pretty open to discussing anything, seeming except my one desire :-)
Posted Fri Mar 23, 2007 03:49 PM
I've had better luck approaching people by touching their feet than by explicitly talking about how I like feet. You can also drop subtle or not-so-subtle hints.
* Start massaging her feet. I once was sitting on a bed with a girl just talking late at night, we were facing the opposite ends of the bed so her feet were right where my hands were...and I just started massaging them. She didn't seem to react very much at first but eventually she said it felt nice, that she enjoyed it, and she was kind of surprised because no guy had ever done it before.
* Complement her on her feet, or socks, or something else having to do with her feet. This can be a way to feel things out--how does she feel about her feet? How does she feel about your being attracted to her feet? Saying something like: "I love those socks." or "those socks look so good" is totally benign...and yet if she is excited by the fact that you like her feet, that one little comment might go a long way. Something like "your feet are so cute" is more direct but still not too out there.
People have such different feelings about feet. Many people think of feet as dirty, or smelly. There are probably a lot of people who aren't necessarily grossed out by their own feet, but are worried that their partner probably is. If you let them know through hints or actions that you aren't grossed out by her feet...she might get more comfy gradually.
I've had pretty good luck with the gradual approach. But one thing I've learned--although most girls are comfy with guys liking there feet, there are a few out there who just are NOT into it and won't get comfy with it. So don't force the matter!
I hope this helps.
Posted Fri Mar 23, 2007 05:53 PM
Posted Sat Mar 24, 2007 07:44 AM
Black Lightning said:
In Las Vegas, Women wear flip-flops all year round. Heels turn me on because I love women with high arched feet.
Massaging her feet is a start. Keep us posted how it turns out. Good Luck!