Posted Mon Mar 19, 2007 11:50 AM
For me, I have to at least know the person and have some kind of connection. I've never had a 1-night stand, but have had plenty of chances, but wasn't sure I would be able to perform or get into it.
Posted Mon Mar 19, 2007 12:14 PM
I'm so picky that there has to be a connection before I even speak on msn to someone!
Posted Mon Mar 19, 2007 12:20 PM
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Posted Mon Mar 19, 2007 10:40 PM
Sure you can, but it's more meaningful to have that emotional connection with someone. Seduce the mind and the rest will follow perfectly, You'll have the greatest sex of your life.
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Posted Wed Mar 21, 2007 06:52 PM
Many people just don't realize...great sex is much more than getting naked. Great sex BEGINS with a walk in the park; a ride in the country or to the beach; a pleasant meal in a decent restaurant; slow dancing; sitting and talking about life in general with a VERY GOOD FRIEND. Anyone can have a quickie...it just isn't the same.
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Posted Fri Mar 23, 2007 03:32 PM
Now, on the other hand, this doesn't mean I need to be in a relationship with someone. I have found that sometimes some of my most wholesome sexual interactions with people have been outside the context of a normal relationship. But there definitely has to be an emotional bond--caring about the other person, wanting to be close to them, share your feelings, etc.
One thing that bugs the heck out of me is that I feel in our society there are two extremes--casual sex on the one hand, where there is no emotional connection, often no emotion whatsoever. And...a serious, committed relationship on the other hand. I tend to feel the most comfortable somewhere in between these two extremes...I have had a lot of really great connections with people outside of a relationship where it is sexual, but there is a fairly strong emotional connection.
Anyone else out there feel the same way?
Posted Sat Mar 24, 2007 03:16 PM
I think what helps me is that I don't have an irrational fear of being hurt emotionally. I know not to expect anything specific from a relationship early on and I know to have patience and let it develop as it will over time. Of course sex is better with a strong emotional connection. For me it is more or less a moot point. I can have sex on a first date or I can have sex a month and a half later. In any event, a lot of emotions do develop during and after the first sexual experiences with a partner. Which comes first, the chicken or the egg?
Posted Sat Mar 24, 2007 04:13 PM