Hung up about his cum, how can he get past it
Posted Thu Mar 22, 2007 11:53 AM
Birth control is not an issue which makes sex so much easier to enjoy. He sure enjoys cumming in me without a rubber. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy it like that too. When we get things going again he doesn't mind it when I give him oral to get him hard again. When I do that I taste both of our juices on his penis. I think its sexy and exciting tasting our love. When it comes down to his turn, he can't get himself past his hangups. He will lick my clit, but he avoids his cum dripping out of me. I would kiss him after oral, but he won't kiss me.
Why are guys so hung up about cum?
Posted Thu Mar 22, 2007 12:17 PM
I'd say talk to him to find out why he feels that way about it, and go from there.
Posted Thu Mar 22, 2007 12:59 PM
Posted Thu Mar 22, 2007 02:23 PM
That said, again, I'd agree with the gay thing. When I first did it and it didn't bother me, I was concerned that she would view me as gay. I didn't worry about it because I know that I'm not. I'm not even remotely attracted to a guy. I enjoy a nice looking cock to look at, but there's no draw for me to do anything with it. I also enjoy dildos, fingers and tongue being use on my ass. But there's nothing gay about it because it is all being done by a woman with no attraction for a man or a real cock.
Explain to him that him licking your vagina (yours) with cum in it (his and not someone elses) doen't make him gay anymore than you sucking your juices on his penis makes you a lesbian. Neither one makes either of you bi-sexual. Possibly try something to get him into the mood of things. Tell him you want him to get some on his tongue and come up and slide his tongue into your mouth so that you can suck it off his tongue. Baby steps. I started my above stated habit of sucking the cum-covered nipple by simply giving it very light licks with just the tip of my tongue. It got gradual and I finally thought, what the heck, there's no difference now, and went for the gusto. Now it's no big deal. You could also compare it to other things. When he's eating popcorn and licks his fingers, is he gay? He's licking the fingers of a man. Does that mean that now he's willing to go lick or suck the salt off another man's fingers? Of course not, that's obsurd. So just because we're talking about a sexual organ, why does he consider that different? That's something you may want to ask and even though he may give a negative response or a reason why, it will get his mind thinking about it.
Hope that helps.
I forgot to add - to him maybe it's not a gay thing. Maybe he just finds it gross just as a lot of women do. They either find the taste, smell or texture or simply just the thought of it as nasty or gross.
Posted Fri Mar 23, 2007 10:24 AM
Posted Fri Mar 23, 2007 12:30 PM
however, its a real turn on for the girl to be totally covered in it, thats okay.
Posted Fri Mar 23, 2007 02:36 PM
Snazzle has covered the subject pretty well.
Unfortunately there is no real justification but the only solution is for you to have this conversation with him. I would suggest that you make him understand that his rejection makes you feel dirty or rejected.
Posted Sat Mar 24, 2007 03:32 PM
It is not too hard to clean up afterwards is it? Just go the restroom, wash up and come back. Right?