Posted Fri Mar 23, 2007 04:54 PM
First one was about me wanting a kiss from her in public. She said no kissing in public. I'm not sure about that one.. what should I get out of that? She doesn't want anyone seeing her kiss the boyfriend she loves? So I asked her whats up with that and she said it makes her sad to see other couples kissing and that she doesn't like to see other people kissing. I was like wtf is that shit. I still dont believe that as an excuse. In any case that was her answer. Im not sure what to think..
Also when we got back to my house.. after eating a little.. we managed to get in an argument.. because she couldn't look at me in the eye without staring away. You know.. its bothering me..
What should I do about it? I tried talking about it peacefully but every time it escalated to an argument. Not to mention... she is treating me like shit. She is being immature, selfish, bratty and stubborn.. She even said stuff like shut the fuck up and fuck you i don't want to hear your shit. Last thing I want to say is.. She has had a stressful week. Pretty busy.. But I still dont see it as a good reason for doing all those things? Idk... opinions plz.
Posted Fri Mar 23, 2007 05:22 PM
Posted Fri Mar 23, 2007 05:37 PM
Anyway, if someone said watching other couples kiss (an indication of a happy, healthy relationship) made them sad I would assume it was a sadness based on a lack of having that sort of relationship themselves. So if I were you I'd ask delicately what about seeing couples kiss makes her sad. Usually you can return any response into a question, if nothing else just keep asking why. If she gets exasperated just tell her, gently and calmly, that you are just trying to understand, and if she could elaborate more to begin with instead of being evasive (if that seems to be the case) then you wouldn't feel the need to ask so many questions of her.
As for the looking away when you are talking, people do that when they're nervous. Something about having you around seems to be making her uncomfortable. Also if people are angry or ... when someone starts to get on my nerves alot it makes me want them to go away, if they won't/can't go away then I want to ignore them. Not looking at them is a good start to ignoring them (pretend they aren't there).
Not wanting to be affectionate with you, picking fights, and acting nervous or annoyed; those are all ways of creating space. You two are in a LDR correct? If she is creating space when you two are actually together (which is rare enough) then .. honestly I think you need to reevaluate this relationship.
Are you in it because you want this girl and she reciprocates being your match? Or is it because you've been together so long you should try to stay together? Is it because you can't imagine finding anyone else better? Or because you can't imagine / are afraid to find anyone else at all? Are you so used to the drama you have with this girl that you think this is normal? It isn't. If there is something going on with her, try to help her work through it. But, be practical enough to realize the problem she is having may just be you, and it may be time to admit that you two are meant to be loves that each other had once, good people you knew and perhaps remain good, loving friends forever, but it wasn't meant to be.
Posted Fri Mar 23, 2007 06:19 PM
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