Low sex drive
Posted Tue Sep 13, 2011 01:00 PM
I'm a 19 y.o male and I'm having troubles with my sex drive, weird huh?
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over 3 years. We didn't have sex for a year, and we have been having sex for 2 years on a regular basis untill a few months ago where i don't seem to have much of a sex drive when it comes to pleasing her. I cannot get a full erection and sex no longer feels very good to me. Masterbating feels better to me and the only time I have a high sex drive is toward another woman or watching porn!!!! It's insane. I am fit, go to the gym every day.
What can be the issue here? I find her attractive but I just can't get an erection with her easily, it takes lots of preparation. She has an insansely high sex drive and I don't which is a problem.
Posted Tue Sep 13, 2011 01:16 PM
Posted Tue Sep 13, 2011 02:04 PM
I would seriously suggest that you stop masturbating for awhile. I'm not a guy, but it stands to reason that if masturbating feels better, you'll want to retrain that cock! It may help to stop watching porn for a while or ask your girl to watch it with you. I hope some guys post their thoughts on retraining their anatomy to respond to different stimulation.
Also, what kind of porn are you watching? Do you and your girl have vanilla sex when compared to the type(s) of porn you enjoy? Does she make you turn the lights off? Seeing what's going on sure seems central to all the men I've slept with.
Do you feel like there is any performance pressure on you? She might be pressuring you and you don't even realize how it has affected you. I once made an offhand comment to a lover and for a month afterward he had erection problems... Oops in a huge way. We talked it through and he got over it, but the experience taught me a lesson.
Stressing about this is probably only going to make the situation worse... It can be easier said than done, but try not to think about anything that provokes feelings of inadequacy or places undue pressure on your performance. Sex is supposed to be fun and relieve stress not create it.
Posted Tue Sep 13, 2011 07:23 PM
Performance is not at all an issue. I hate to play the blame game but I'm starting to have a feeling its on her part.
She climax's every time we have sex, but It just takes me an insanely long time to get turned on and half the time i'm not "rock hard" as i can be and simply have a low sex drive.
Anyone on these boards take testosterone pills?
Thanks for the advice so far.
Posted Tue Sep 13, 2011 10:23 PM
I say stay off the porn for a little while and see how long you can go(without masterbating)
I know I have to balance the porn and the sex.
Posted Tue Sep 13, 2011 10:58 PM
As a Human All Sex Feelings Comes From Our Brain We Can Control That Feelings Any time
I know how to do that and i'm practically do this
wish very best
Posted Wed Sep 14, 2011 11:08 AM
If you are going through a period of high stress or depression, that can explain the low sex drive. Even some medications can affect your sex drive. Good luck.