Talking or Listening
Posted Fri Sep 23, 2011 11:05 PM
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Posted Sun Oct 23, 2011 05:14 AM
Posted Wed Oct 26, 2011 03:15 AM
I prefer group counselling because you develop a strong rapport with the people in the group. You don't feel so alone; you learn there are other people ill, just like you. The group I attended had people from all walks of life: men, women, young, old, people with drug issues, people with mental illnesses like depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, etc.
In one on one therapy, you don't learn anything personal about your psychologist. The whole meeting is very robotic: it is you doing all the talking for the most part and having the psychologist nod his head every now and then. Because of this one sided nature of seeing a psychologist, you don't develop a rapport with the psychologist. That is what I found anyway. But just because one on one therapy did not work for me, does not mean it may not work for someone else.
Sorry I kind of went off on a tangent there. Speak up only when you feel you are ready to. Don't force yourself. If you are worried that people are wondering why you are not speaking up, you can say something like, I'm a little nervous right now, and I would like to reserve my time to speak when I am ready. Everybody will understand and nobody will fault or cast ill will at you for not speaking.
This post has been edited by iaav: Wed Oct 26, 2011 03:18 AM
Posted Thu Oct 27, 2011 05:41 PM
Posted Sat Nov 05, 2011 07:32 AM
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Posted Sun Nov 20, 2011 06:28 PM
Posted Sun Dec 11, 2011 08:12 AM
I definitely respond better by hearing about others situations and issues first. Knowing that I am not the only person going through something makes me feel like there is not something so severely wrong with me, that others also go through hard times as well.
I usually then feel comfortable enough to open up and share my story, knowing that I am in a safe and supportive environment and that I wont be judged.
Posted Sun Dec 11, 2011 12:15 PM
Posted Sun Dec 11, 2011 05:18 PM
That's tough, they should realise that we all have different needs and that things like counselling should be tailored to the individuals needs not the other way around.
Posted Thu Dec 15, 2011 11:37 AM
Posted Fri Dec 16, 2011 11:19 PM
In every situation both sides listening and talking can help you. Just have to know which to do at the time.
Posted Sun Feb 05, 2012 09:21 PM
Posted Wed Feb 08, 2012 06:35 AM
As listening, I do think I am great listener and advice giver. It always seemed to me many people, be it in real life or internet life, came to me when they had a problem and looked for advice on what to do. Though it's been a while since the last time I still think I got the skills, haha.
Posted Mon Feb 20, 2012 09:20 PM