Sex buddy issuesS
Posted Thu Sep 29, 2011 10:40 PM
I have made her cum on most occasions in which my body co-operated in (I think so at least). Last time we had some back seat of the car drunken sex and I felt like I was on a real roll and gave it to her for a really long rough time(she likes rough). However I'm not 100% certain being drunk and all if she came or not. I am all about getting her off its just good for my ego and self esteem as far as I am concerned. I have never been good at telling how much a girl enjoyed sex with me or not and am working on becoming better at communicating with them about these things without coming off as insecure (maybe I am but, I don't want to project that).
So I asked her if she had came after about 15 minutes or so, and she said she did. Her legs were not shaking like they do most the time after sex so I was not sure if I believed her or not. I know women like to be overly nice about these things and tell guys that so they will finish and as a man I have trouble fully understanding this concept. So not believing her I just tell her that I am going to get her off again (paraphrasing) So I begin to fuck her and place my thumb on her clit and begin to massage it while thrusting...she pulls my hand away and tells me that it freezes her up when I do that.
I decided after about five minutes of thrusting that my legs needed a break so I began to finger her as I know for certain my fingering technique (sounds funny to say that out loud) gets her off. She pulls my hand away and says "how do you find that spot every time" referring to her G-spot presumably I might just have found a spot that I think is the G spot lol I am a man. So I decided Im just gonna get off after going back at it for another 10 to 15 minutes and call it a day at that point.
The question I guess I am trying to ask here is
Am I doing something wrong and she is just being nice and trying to get me to finish?
If not then is she trying not to get off for some reason or did she really actually get off?
A couple more things that might play a roll in the grander scheme of it all...(I know this has been a long read I'm really sorry)
She has a boyfriend
We work at the same place (rarely the same time)
She tends to get really wet sometimes and I think that disgusts her
I am well endowed despite this fact I secretly harbor low self confidence yet project the opposite
She told me and her friend that she overly sold feeling good while having sex by screaming and moaning with an ex to help boost his ego and I made her aware that I am conscious of that fact
I have sever trust issues so me not believing her is most likely a reflection on myself than her
PLEASE RESPOND ANY FEED BACK IS DESPERATELY NEEDED AS THIS IS REALLY EFFECTING MY LIBIDO AND GENERAL CONFIDENCE
Posted Thu Sep 29, 2011 11:43 PM
Posted Fri Sep 30, 2011 06:22 AM
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Posted Sun Oct 02, 2011 03:11 AM
Okay the contracting and pulsing thing is not always noticeable when wearing a condom and caught up in the moment. And seriously breaths shorter and shorter thing you seriously think I am going to be able to really track that when I'm having sex I'm concentrating on other things like how good it feels. clitoris sensitive to the touch...yeah I said she told me when massaging her clit it freezes her up.
Posted Sun Oct 02, 2011 04:41 AM
I think you guys need to sit down so you can tell her your insecurities. No need to get right into it, just tell her that you would prefer her to tell you how she really feels and not to sugar coat it. If what your doing doesn't get her off, she can tell you what she likes or you can explore that together so she is getting off.
I know you are concerned with your own performance, but you can't judge and base yourself on other peoples responses to your actions if they lie. She needs to own her responses and you need to own your actions only. If she is wet before, during and after, I could probably put $5 on it that she is enjoying herself.
Try and have some fun with sex, sometimes thinking too much into it is just a mood killer.