a problem i think?
Posted Mon Apr 09, 2007 01:38 PM
Well basicaly my brothers duaghter (my neice) is 8 years old on the 16th of may. Well anyway my brother met his wife about 12 years ago and she english but her family come from Somalia and live over there but are pretty rich and therefore come over every 2 months for about 2 weeks to visit, but i have only met them a few times. I get on really well with his wife and were good friends. The problem i have is that i am a athiest ( ya no i don't beleive in god and that and neither does my brother) but at the same time we were brought up to respect and understand other peoples religions and vocations.
My brothers wife is not what i would say religious but she does follow guide lines of her culture...well anyway i have recently found out that my brothers wife and her parents want my niece to be circumcised..so at least thats the impression that i get. My brother started to tell me about it around 1 moth ago and as you mayof guessed i love my niece and would never want her to come to anyharm and as a godfather it is my dutey i think to see she is ok, but at the same time i have to let my brother and his wife bring her up in his own way.
from what i have been told it is a type of maturity and second step in life, so i am guessing that my brothers wife has had the same thing done and so has her mother( i ani't asked or anyhting like that tho). I asked my wifes parents what excalty they wanted to do with out it seeming to personal, they told me that she was having a type 2 operation,. anyway i did abit of research and it seems it is called a Excision.....they also told me that it is the removal of her clitoris and part of the inner lips of the female vulva. I looked on wikipedia for info and it grossed me out abit, mainly cuz it's my niece if you can understand where i am coming from.
it does not seem to cause problems for them, and if my brothers wife had it done then i does it does not pose and problems for chidlbirth, and also altho i did not no female circumcision even existed in females, alot of men have it done and there is little problems with it so why should there be any for this.
i am really having a problem with this as i don't no what to do, my brother seems to think that his daughter should remember her background and should be allowed to follow her english live and her mothers ethinic one aswell. Her mum wants it done so that she can progress to the next stage in her life.
I just want her to have a good life and not be put in any danger....any help would be great.....and please can you keep this topic clean if you can offer help as am sure you can understand why.
Posted Mon Apr 09, 2007 02:01 PM
Not to mention, ILLEGAL in most civilized countries! Please, look into the legality and save that poor girl!
Posted Mon Apr 09, 2007 02:08 PM
But after reading just a little about female circumcision, it sounds like child abuse. I'm no expert on either subject, but that's just my first impression. Disgusting, in my opinion.
Try your best to talk your brother into at least letting the girl wait until she is capable of making the choice on her own! Though I like PieceKeeper's post.
Posted Mon Apr 09, 2007 03:27 PM
Posted Mon Apr 09, 2007 03:34 PM
"Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) is an invasive and painful surgical procedure that is usually performed without anesthetic on girls before puberty. There are about 100 to 140 million women who have been circumcised. An average of about four girls a minute continue to be mutilated. Their clitoris is partially or completely removed. This inhibits or terminates sexual feelings. It has been a social custom in Northern Africa for many centuries." (http://www.religious...rg/fem_circ.htm)
Posted Mon Apr 09, 2007 03:39 PM
if i knew this is a problem and bad then i would have acted sooner, so would have my brother...this stuff is new to me and i think more people should know about this then.
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