How do you handle an insult?
Posted Wed Oct 12, 2011 11:36 PM
Posted Thu Oct 13, 2011 12:22 AM
Posted Fri Oct 14, 2011 01:23 PM
i absolutely agree bout insult vs disrespect. personal attacks are unwarranted and mean-spirited and i have no tolerance for rude people...none. i can brush off someone actin like an ass, but actin like an asshole towards me wont last.
im not sayin im always reasonable, i have my moments...spit fia feisty (i could literally spit). ive dealt with guys callin me a dumb blonde bitch and i stood up to em...told em to fuck off, and get ovah themselves.
oh..and if someone insults my friends or fam...theres no tellin what i mite do...i am most dangerous in protective mode and probly not as level-headed as i would hope to be...sorta a cross tween cool and cuhrazy, heavy on the cuhrazy lol.
Posted Sat Oct 15, 2011 12:21 AM
Posted Mon Oct 17, 2011 07:23 AM
think about it....people who insult you...why?
they wana embarasse you or hurt you or whatever...
whatever you do...do NOT give them what they want....
you rarely see a person who insults another person because ""i like seeing the people who is being insulted, yet dont respond "
Posted Tue Oct 18, 2011 04:17 PM
Posted Tue Oct 18, 2011 07:34 PM
Based upon my accounts of having been the recipient of insults, during my middle school days, I had succumbed to much bullying, and therefore a wealth of insults from these insecure hooligans, many of which were hurtful and a necessitation for tears. I was without directionality, but even more worse, was the fact that both my self-esteem and confidence levels were negligible. I was plagued by a school environment wherein the kids "governed" the teachers, and I was without a sense of safety and security. Never did I contemplate suicide at that time, but given how hated I truly was, or was alleged to be, in other kid's cases, they would have most likely terminated their life. It is very sad, but a true set events for myself, unfortunately. ;( Thankfully, and by an easy presumption, bullying is no longer a precedent on my lists of concerns or an issue in college, of course.
Other than the instance of school, I have been nastily pelted with every name in the book by one of my family member. It would only be polite that I speak of him on a condition of anonymity. Granted, that he does have to contend with the health undertaking of hypertension and I have love him very much, his demeanors, dispositions and expressions instill the fear within me. For, it is the face of anger, the face of rage, the face of "irateness"; anger, in its most severe variant. Heavy alcohol consumption is also incorporated into this equation, not to my surprise. In this instance, these insults, hurtful, vulgar, and heart-crushing if you will, are the untamed product of his affinity for alcohol. I speak of a man who possess dry tear ducts, even existentialistic at times. I will be very honest; my father's insults have rendered me depressed, but a managable variant of depression. I have hurt, and I have simply cried my eyes out. Undoubtedly, the truth hurts, and sometimes the honest person asserts their honesty to a level that supersedes what might be acceptable.
If I might be able to clarify my position with an example, please. This will hopefully help to distinguish between a non-hurtful insult, from a hurtful insult. A non-hurtful insult might entail something to the effect of 'You are a stupid'. Just as 'skatir9''had alluded to, it is something that we know is not true, and never will be true. Therefore, it does not impact us at all. However, consider this insult that somebody had wrongly called me, to which I responded with extreme depression. I am paraphrasing. 'You are a useless person, that is just a waste of space and energy on this planet.' Now, no further extensive explanantion need apply; this is without question, extremely hurtful and devastating. This here, exemplifies a nastily-hurtful insult, and I had a strong inclination to; to; to; commit suicide on that very day. Thankfully, I did not take that course of action and I am still here, first it would be the worse decision that I ever made. An insult should not be taken to heart, but if it is an insult that impacts and affects you, yourself, a hurtful insult, it is hard to handle that remark without an emotional response of tears or aggression being induced. Thank you.
Posted Wed Oct 19, 2011 05:09 AM
Posted Fri Oct 21, 2011 01:29 PM
Posted Wed Oct 26, 2011 03:39 AM
Posted Thu Oct 27, 2011 12:53 AM
As a person of color, growing up I was insulted quite a bit. Some people just are haters, some are rude, some just lash out. You can't let someone else's opinion of you define you. I have been insulted here at SF from time to time.
Of course, my favorite is a story about handling insults is from the Buddha.
There was a man who heard that the Buddha had a quiet temperament and did not flare up in anger. This man was very angry and wanted to test the Buddha to show him up, so that man followed the Buddha and hurled insult after insult at him. Finally the Buddha turned to him and asked "If a man comes to your home and offers you a gift, and you refuse that gift, to whom does this gift belong?"
The man replied "to the giver I suppose."
To which the Buddha replied, "then I refuse to accept your insults" and walked away.
This post has been edited by Davendra: Thu Oct 27, 2011 12:54 AM
Posted Wed Nov 02, 2011 02:43 AM
If someone insults me in front of a group of people they are generally making themselves look a hell of a lot worse than me. Insulting people is a sign of poor communications skills and a lack of respect for both the person they are insulting and themselves.
The last time I was insulted I was told by a now former co worker that I lack good work habits. This was said in front of several of my co workers. That is one of the worst things you can say to me.
I calmly asked him "Are you done?". He replied that he was. "Good. Then I wont have to hear you talk anymore." was my reply. Not a word was spoken between us again. Nor did several of my co workers speak to him.
Had I reacted with another insult, he would have reacted with one, and this would have escalated into a fight. And im too old for that shit. I kept the respect of my friends and co workers; he got ostracized to the point where he could not work there anymore.
Who was the winner here?
This post has been edited by GaryM: Wed Nov 02, 2011 02:44 AM
Posted Sat Nov 05, 2011 07:26 AM
Posted Tue Nov 08, 2011 05:12 AM
If man throws a spear of insult at your head, why catch and throw back, simply move head.
Posted Tue Nov 08, 2011 05:33 AM
A family member insulted my husband and I in the presence of our child so I ignored her for three years. I mean I really ignored her existence. She finally got the message.
Posted Tue Nov 08, 2011 05:36 AM
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Posted Thu Nov 10, 2011 10:38 PM