Posted Mon Oct 17, 2011 06:14 AM
Posted Mon Oct 17, 2011 06:28 AM
Posted Mon Oct 17, 2011 06:46 AM
Are you convincing us, or yourself? And if there is nothing to worry about, well, why you worried if other people are okay with letting another man have his way with their wife?
Now, to answer your question, I don't think I could ever be " okay" with someone fucking my wife. Just thinking about it makes me jealous, but I can't lie, I have thought about it. She thinks I'm crazy, lol.
But everyone is different, and only you will know if you can deal with it. Keep us posted on how it goes...
Posted Mon Oct 17, 2011 09:03 AM
It really doesn't matter what the rest of us would do. The rest of us aren't you and we're not in your relationship.
Posted Mon Oct 17, 2011 12:36 PM
I disagree that threesomes are tit-for-tat, that an FFM/FMF requires a reciprocal MMF/MFM; that depends upon both partners' comfort levels and desires. If your wife was comfortable and enjoyed when another woman was present, then great for both of you. (If she was not, then you should not revisit that type anytime soon, either!)
As wouch already mentioned, consider what made you uncomfortable about the other man in this most recent threesome. Was it him? Did he do something that made you feel threatened? Or was it just the fact he was male?
Discuss this extensively with your partner. Pushing your boundaries slightly can lead to some truly enjoyable times, but completely crossing them can risk your whole relationship. Take things slowly, if you need, and know that there is nothing stopping you from going back to something more comfortable, if that is what you need.
Posted Sun Oct 23, 2011 08:55 AM
If you do stop right now, I hope you're wife is happy with this.
My wife and I are getting into the swing lifestyle. We've met two couples so far. One that we really want to swap with. Their rules are that they play in the same room. I don't think I mind my wife enjoying another man if I'm with another woman. If it bothers me, I won't look.
I think the important thing is to decide how far you're willing to go before you get started, because if you need to stop, you both need to be ready to stop.
Posted Sun Nov 27, 2011 08:59 PM
Posted Fri Dec 02, 2011 09:38 PM
Yes this is my thinking too. Good for gander good for goose....
Posted Mon Dec 05, 2011 07:54 PM
Another guy did your wife but you didn't say exactly what is bothering you about it. Was he bigger than you? did he make her make noises you've never heard? Did she orgasm from intercourse with him but never has with you? did she leave you the next day to go be with him? Do you feel less attracted to her? Does she seem less attracted to you? Or do you just feel a little weird because you are brainwashed that you are supposed to be monogamous and this was something a little outside of the box.
You also didn't say if it was a MMF or a MFMF swap.
You need to figure out what exactly bothered you. You can tell your wife your feelings but if she is anything like mine, she will call you a one sided baby and get pissed, say she is done, and then there goes those great FMF threesomes you like so much. Or maybe even worse.
What I would say is buck up cowboy. These jealousy issues you are feeling are normal and can be dealt with if you look at the the right way. If she is still there, still loves you, maybe even kissing you more or cuddling closer because she likes that you trusted her enough to allow that, the same as how us guys are after they let us fuck the other girl in a threesome, then your already doing good.
You should be happy she enjoyed herself. You should be happy there is enough trust in your relationship that you can do that.
Of course you are going to have a little jealousy, but jealousy is a fear and it can be overcome. I mean it is your wife. If you werent jealous at all, I would think that meant you really didnt care about her. She lets you play, return the favor every now and then and reap the rewards of a strong and trusting relationship.
Posted Wed Dec 07, 2011 04:08 AM
Posted Wed Dec 07, 2011 04:23 AM
If either of you have doubts then stop, it will lead you down the road to a nice break up and divorce.
Talk it through first and foremost, please!