Posted Mon Apr 16, 2007 05:35 PM
So my wife had a Dr. app. today, and I get a phone call on my way home from her telling me she has HPV!
So I'm am kinda freaking out here, I have so many emotions flowin right now.
I know that she had one partner before me but that was about 5 years ago and I know that I had some before her but they were longer ago than that.
So I have these questions flyin around in my head such as,
Is she cheating on me?
Do I have it?
Can/should we still have sex?
What about oral sex?
She thinks it must have come from her previous, but could it lay dormaint for 5 years?
How should I react?
Should I ask her if she has been loyal?
Should I shrug it off?
Dr. says that the body should fight it off over a few years and that over 80% of sexually active people have it and never know it.
I just have alot of feelings that are being tugged at and I dont kow which ones to believe.
I have googled and read alot about it and it seems to be really common, but I have never had to deal with a STD before.
I know that she loves me and I never have had to wonder if she is cheating on me before. We are a pretty close nit couple and we are pretty aware of each others where abouts most all of the time. So I still feel mostly that she has been loyal and maybe she or maybe even I have had it for this long and are just now learning of it.
I just dont know what to do,
I thought maybe if there are some other people that have been in simular situations could share their thoughts and feelings and how they delt with it.
Thanks for listening to a sad soul.
Posted Mon Apr 16, 2007 05:46 PM
As for HPV, I would just go to the doctor and do whatever they tell you.
I also heard 80%ish. Not that its not important but nothing more than a doctors visit. More important for your girlfriend. Possibly very cancerous. Make sure she keeps up with whatever the doc says.
Posted Mon Apr 16, 2007 06:32 PM
You can still have sex, no problem. If it's the high risk HPV she has (the kind that can potentially cause cervical cancer), you have it as well, however it does not affect men. If it is the low risk (warts) then you may get warts as well. But it doesn't matter if you stop having sex, you both have the same virus.
Don't think that she gave it to you, it is just as likely that you gave it to her. Like I said, it can stay dormant for a very long period of time. That makes it untraceable unless one of you was a virgin.
The figure of 80% is correct. This virus is very rampant. Just relax and listen to the doctors. It's very treatable.
Posted Tue Apr 17, 2007 11:06 AM
HPV and Genital Warts
HPV stands for the human papillomavirus. There are over 100 types or strains of HPV, according to CDC. About a third of the strains of HPV are sexually transmitted and can cause warts in the genital area. These sexually transmitted strains of HPV are different from the strains of HPV that cause skin warts on the hands or feet. (Read about skin warts in "Warts")
HPV is fairly common according to CDC. Some 20 million Americans are infected right now and five and a half million more are infected each year. Most sexually active people, 50 to 75 percent, will get an HPV infection during their lives.
Most people who are infected don't even know it. That's because the virus often doesn't result in visible warts. When it does, they can appear anywhere in the genital region externally and even internally on the cervix in women.
There is no cure for HPV but many infections go away on their own. Visible warts can be removed but no one method is considered better that others. Abstinence is the only sure way to prevent infection. All other methods carry some risk.
Posted Tue Apr 17, 2007 12:25 PM
She claims that there is no blood test for it. She said the test was to put iodine and vinegar on my penis to see if the warts would show up! I'm like, "What, your so full of shit".
Posted Wed Apr 18, 2007 04:43 PM
Thanks for the support and advice everyone.
Posted Fri Apr 20, 2007 09:10 PM
On another note....there is still tension between us. I have asked for sex twice this week, and have received some odd replys. I dont know if she feels bad about it or embarrassed or scared but she does not seem to want to do it.
I tried to talk to her about it and tried to explain to her that I love her and that I still feel that she is my sexy wife, and I said that I felt that we needed to have sex to help us realize that we need to move on. But she seemed to clam up. After the second time I asked her if she wanted to be frisky, I figure I need to back off and wait for her to open up (no pun intended) and come to me (again no pun intended:). When we are not talking about it, like just hanging out and watching tv, everything seems for the most oart normal, its just the sex talk and the STD talk makes the air thick.
So my question is, how long should I wait till I ask about sex again? I dont want her to give in just because I keep asking, I want her to want it too.
Life sure does know how to screw ya up sometimes huh....
Thanks again for the support and advice everyone.