Is he bi too?
Posted Sat Oct 29, 2011 08:34 AM
I really, really like him, and he is a very feminine man. He's smaller than me, he has long brown hair and sometimes I catch up looking at me in a way I don't really understand (I can't tell if it's lust, hate, confusion or whatever else).
Another thing is, he makes it very clear that he does not like men at ALL. He hates it when people imply he might be gay. So you see my problem, yeah?
Any help on how to see if he's really gay/bi or not would be appreciated, as would any other advice.
Posted Sat Oct 29, 2011 09:36 AM
Posted Sat Oct 29, 2011 10:08 AM
Of course, there's always the risk of "outing" yourself, but if he's truly a friend, he might understand. Even if he is bi or gay, it sounds as though he hasn't come to terms with it, and it might be difficult for him to accept the fact that you are bi. Sometimes I wish there were some kind of "secret sign" one could use to identify themselves without risk, but I don't know of any...
Posted Sat Oct 29, 2011 11:30 AM
Posted Sun Oct 30, 2011 12:48 AM
And one of the things that makes this particularly hard to figure out is the fact that he hasn't been out with a girl in years. He's decently good looking, he has good personal hygiene and is a very considerate person, but he never seems to go out with girls.
If I bring this up he may get insulted though...
Posted Sun Oct 30, 2011 03:59 AM
If he is your Best friend you should be able to talk about it. Does he go out with women? The best shot is to bring it up casually or as a joke, like, women are so demanding,no wonder so many men try bi. See where it goes or how he responds to it. If he asks you if you are bi, tell him you would only try it with him. His next move would let you know one way or another
Your in a tough situation, but I have always found if you get a couple of good beers going you can get involved in a conversation related to sex. Once you have a good buzz going you can play the who'd you do this person. I always start off with would you do a (so and so ugly girl?) , Would you do a hot transvestite, would you do a cross dresse, etc. Get the conversation roling in the direction you want, and see his reaction.
Posted Wed Nov 09, 2011 03:25 PM