Fear of sex
Posted Tue Nov 15, 2011 09:39 PM
Posted Tue Nov 15, 2011 09:46 PM
I do. Since I was 18, and yes.
Posted Tue Nov 15, 2011 10:29 PM
Posted Thu Nov 17, 2011 04:27 AM
Posted Thu Nov 17, 2011 11:12 PM
Posted Sat Nov 19, 2011 04:27 PM
Posted Wed Nov 23, 2011 09:05 PM
Posted Tue Nov 29, 2011 09:46 AM
So I just felt untouchable and I refused human contact. It was not the right way to deal with it
As I felt able to talk about my problems I realized I needed therapy, (also medicins helped/help me...)
The fact now is that sex has become instead a microworld in my life where I feel comfortable and, often, completely ok
I still fear to feel some of those awful sensations during sex, but I admit it rarely happen in the end, It's just a strong anticipatory anxiety
and I have a tip for all of u... there's nothing wrong in admitting we have limits, and it does work
If u have a fear, share with ur partner, even if occasional,
you dont need to tell all to her/him but ur fears, but enough tofeel relaxed
There's a lot of prejudice still, at least in italy about admitting to have, fears problems phobias
That prejudice is senseless, since we all have some of them!
Posted Tue Nov 29, 2011 12:42 PM
Admittedly I have never had casual sex so i don't know how that would affect it, but I fear being left, so I like to cuddle...
Posted Tue Nov 29, 2011 11:48 PM
If I may give a bit of advice in this regard... Always express your needs prior, especially if they're strong. So, if for instance you feel anxious about someone touching you, let the other person know. Similarly, if you're too self conscious about something in your body like a scar or a particularity... You are in your right to demand a modicum of compassion... And compassion is not pity. Compassion is the desire to alleviate somebody else's suffering, and everyone should be open to receiving that.
In my humble opinion, there can be no sex without some measure of compassion... Sex is a human need, just as much as food is. So, if we negotiate sex with someone else, and we're willing to take our clothes off and render ourselves physically and even emotionally vulnerable, we should expect and provide a good measure of compassion.
Posted Thu Dec 20, 2012 07:40 PM
Posted Tue Jan 15, 2013 07:37 PM
Posted Sun Feb 10, 2013 10:45 PM
Yes I have but they are not things I talk about unless they come when I am either having sex or in a sexual relationship
Posted Mon Feb 11, 2013 10:54 AM
Posted Mon Feb 11, 2013 10:56 AM
Posted Wed Mar 06, 2013 05:46 PM
Posted Wed Mar 06, 2013 07:48 PM
Posted Wed Mar 06, 2013 07:51 PM
I just laughed out loud! I have a fear of bees and wasps. That's the only thing that would stop me too. Lol
Posted Wed Mar 06, 2013 07:58 PM