I don't know what to do anymore!
Posted Fri Nov 18, 2011 04:06 AM
I will try to explain as best I can.
I started a job over a year ago and became really good friends with a coworker. Never planned on it going any further than that, she had a boyfriend and I was married.
After some time my marriage fell apart because of her kids (long story) and when I got divorced my friend was there for me, soon after she broke up with her boyfriend.
And one thing led to another and we started a relationship. Now she has had a very hard life lots of bad things have happened to her and at one point she had hit rock bottom.
Her ex was in a similar situation and that's how they met, the thing that causes me stress is that her ex still lives with her and argues and hits her, we have fought about this several
Times. Please keep in mind that I love her with all my heart, I have my fears from time to time, but when she comes over they vanish. Our relationship is a secret because she is afraid
That he will beat her again, he has told her that if he can't be with her that's fine but I damn sure won't have her. There are things that happen that cause my fears/paranoia
Such as when I'm around them both he will still try to act like they are together, when she works the front counter at work and he brings her food he walks around the side door out of view instead of just passing it over the counter. I blame my fears and doubt on my past relationships as they all ended by me being cheated on, I'm just so lost and confused, and I think the stress and high blood pressure is causing me some erectile issues, please help!!!
Feel free to ask any questions if you need any more info.
Posted Fri Nov 18, 2011 07:07 AM
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Posted Sat Nov 19, 2011 03:29 AM
She hasn't moved out because the lease is in her name, her mother lives with her and they can't afford to live there without his income, which is also why the police have not been called, if it means anything when all three of us are in the same place she knows I am uncomfortable and will look for chances to secretly touch me or will kiss me when he leaves the room, she knows that this comforts me a little bit, I have not called anything off because I have not honestly seen any proof that she is being unfaithful to me. I have never paid any of her bills, in fact I like to buy her gifts and have to fight with her to get her to take them sometimes, and on occasion I even let her win by NOT getting her something. She has never asked me for anything with the exception of a coke or some other drink when we are driving around.
Posted Sat Nov 19, 2011 10:13 AM
If it was that easy I would have already :-(
In addition all that I said above I also have 2 kids of my own and her house isn't big enough. And I've already brought up her mom and her moving in with us but her mom is kind a shut in and doesn't want to leave that house, I know how it sounds, it's one excuse after another, I've thought that too, which is why I'm here asking for advice. :,-(
Posted Tue Nov 22, 2011 09:13 AM