Surgery scars Does anyone get freaked out by seeing scars on others?
Posted Fri Nov 25, 2011 09:54 AM
I was just wondering if anyone out there freaks out when they find scars on their new partner or 'playmate'?
The only reason I'm asking is I'm having a breast reduction in under 2 weeks.
So yeah, my trademark boobies will be smaller (sorry boys and girls ). I'm getting it done purely for medical reasons - constant pain, I've just learnt to deal with it everyday, but it's horrid. If I didn't have the pain, the twins would be staying hahaha!!
There will be a lot of scarring seeing as the twins will need a total custom rebuild (lol - I'm not on a car forum am i??) and I really don't want the scars that I'll get to ruin my sexual experience, not only with my hubby but with others too.
Hubby and I are a swinging couple. Meeting new people can be daunting but finding out in the 'heat of the moment' that they have scars on certain parts of their body....does that put people off?
I've written a short blog about it if anyone wants to read it and it would be great to hear some views or experiences.
Love and hugs......
Posted Fri Nov 25, 2011 04:18 PM
Posted Fri Nov 25, 2011 08:39 PM
Best of luck with the procedure in 2 weeks, hope it all goes smooth and that you recover quick
Posted Fri Nov 25, 2011 09:06 PM
I also have a horrid C-section from the children... Maybe it's just me also because I've never really had a comment from anybody.
Then, personally I've been with guys who had some major scars and it's never bothered me. If at all I find them endearing...
Posted Fri Nov 25, 2011 09:20 PM
Posted Fri Nov 25, 2011 09:57 PM
Posted Sat Nov 26, 2011 08:52 AM
But I've seen scares from fire-weapons (obviously!) at girl's skin - reply to my question: äh....oh........nothing in this way...it's a
scar from ...... This put me off - not the scar by itsself but the lies where are they from.
Even one scar has everybody: the navel...
Posted Sat Nov 26, 2011 01:12 PM
Posted Sat Nov 26, 2011 04:23 PM
Posted Sat Nov 26, 2011 04:29 PM
If i was doing you from behind Jade, the last thing that would be on my mind would be your scar lol.
Posted Sat Nov 26, 2011 08:26 PM
Post a pic of the after, and good luck I heard it can be painful, so hopefully you have your man trained well enough to take good care of you
Posted Sat Nov 26, 2011 10:52 PM
Posted Sat Nov 26, 2011 11:43 PM
There is another scar that I was born with called the perineal raphe. The perineal raphe is a visible line or ridge of tissue on the human body that extends from the anus through the perineum. I guess for some guys the scar is rather small, but for me the perineal raphe starts as a small ridge along the scrotum, then widens towards the head of the penis in the shape of a "v". This also contributed to me being terribly self-conscious about myself and how I would be viewed by women. I actually feel terrible for thinking that women wouldn't accept me.
This post has been edited by iaav: Sun Nov 27, 2011 12:01 AM
Posted Sat Nov 26, 2011 11:48 PM
Another way to look at is, people are to self conscious about themselves they will not even notice your small scars anyway
I can not see scars ever being a turn off
Posted Sun Nov 27, 2011 12:17 AM
Posted Sun Nov 27, 2011 01:42 AM
I have two noticable scars on my face: one right below my lower lip, and one on my chin as well. I was never self-conscious over these scars, it's just the other ones.
Posted Sun Nov 27, 2011 01:52 AM
I got it when I was still in high school and I felt it made me so ugly! I'm more over it now but still a little self conscience I don't know why I just do.
Posted Sun Nov 27, 2011 08:38 AM
Thank you everyone for your comments and stories. It's made me feel a lot better.
I do have small scars too but they won't compare to what I'll get out of this operation. I have a tiny scar on my wrist, 2 on my ankle (all from operations that were so long ago, you only can see them if I point them out) and a cesarean scar....I hide that by wearing lingerie or covering it with my hand when we're with playmates...I know I shouldn't be worried about that, cesareans are actually common LOL (but mind you, I was devastated when I found out that both my babies wouldn't come out the normal way, hating the fact that I'd be left with a scar, thankfully when I had my second cesarean, the doctor cut over the first scar so it looks like there's only one)!
I'm keeping positive about everything, thinking about the future after the op. Probably the best thing about it is wearing no bra under a dress when going out (I'm going to savour that for as long as possible haha!!). And buy a hell of a lot of Vitamin E oil....apparetnly that does wonders for scars.
I'll update after the operation...
Thank you again beautiful peeps...
Posted Mon Nov 28, 2011 03:58 AM
Posted Mon Nov 28, 2011 05:46 AM
Last guy didnt even notice them - or if he did he didnt mention them
I plan on a breast enlargement in the future and to be honest the scars dont worry me. Its just a different texture to lick and think about how good you will feel without all that pain.
I wish you all the best and hope that you will come to wear your scars with pride (including your c section scar). xx