Do You Only Date Outside Of Your Race? Do You Only Date Outside Of Your Race?
Posted Mon Dec 12, 2011 10:54 PM
Posted Tue Dec 13, 2011 04:23 AM
... ... anyone with green antennae reading these lines?... ...
Posted Tue Dec 13, 2011 05:13 AM
Posted Tue Dec 13, 2011 09:43 AM
I don't see what the point is... You mean if you date people of different colour? I have never quite understood the term race, but if you mean different ethnic backgrounds, then I guess I do, and I do every single time.
Posted Tue Dec 13, 2011 05:31 PM
I was dating black women, listening to how I was insulting them each time I said hello to a white woman. To date one? Well, I just spit in the face of every woman of color since the beginning of time.
I wasn't political- I just wanted to fuck, as often and as simply as possible, so I gave brown women a very wide berth.
Flash forward to the 1990s. Men of color are openly lusted after. Women of color are desired as well. Denzel and Beyoncé, Taye Diggs and Halle Berry are sex symbols- not just black sex symbols. Their sexuality required no explanation- they were just hot, and the movie scripts didn't need to concoct some clichéd back story of ethnic angst. I had sex with blacks, Asians and Latinas much more often.
And as we became more comfortable in our skins, we could have sex whomever we'd choose, without defense or justification. Now, a talk about my color doesn't even come up whereas, in 1974, a new woman would preface our first kiss with "are you sure the sisters won't come down on you? can you handle it?"
I admit I get a bit annoyed about being seen as a fetish: "I want a black penis", "I think Japanese drive me nuts", "all Mexicans are hot", and so on. This is simply a person who hasn't known enough of a particular group of people to relate to them as individuals. They are often quite disappointed to find how alike we are, that there's no such thing as typical...
This post has been edited by Scotty Wright: Tue Dec 13, 2011 05:33 PM
Posted Tue Dec 13, 2011 05:34 PM
Posted Tue Dec 13, 2011 06:11 PM
As a result, I dated a number of men from other cultures, all different ethnicities.
A handsome and sexy man is a handsome and sexy man, whatever his ethnic background.
That said, probably half the men I've dated are striking French Canadians with bright blue eyes and devilish smiles.
We all have our "types" but to decide to ONLY date people of different or certain ethnicities is just so pre-emptive.