Married and unnoticed. am i doing it wrong?
Posted Tue Dec 13, 2011 08:32 AM
like taking out the garbage helping clean the house working 12 hrs a day everyday, and i come home to a wife that i wake up because she's too lazy(tired) to wake up and do any chores at all, am i doing it wrong?
Posted Tue Dec 13, 2011 09:00 AM
Posted Tue Dec 13, 2011 09:18 AM
As for taking the garbage out, I'm currently training my son (the only male in the family) to religiously take the garbage out as something he will have no right to object for the rest of his life. Call that inhumane, but that's how I see it.
Posted Tue Dec 13, 2011 09:21 AM
Some people won't change if they don't have to. Your wife could be exactly that kind of person. Man up and teel her what goes wrong...in a nice but confident way.
This post has been edited by Doppelgaenger: Tue Dec 13, 2011 09:21 AM
Posted Tue Dec 13, 2011 09:37 AM
No you're doing it right. You're supposed to be selfless in a marriage. What you did wrong was your choice in who you married. You can disagree now. But a few years down the road, you're going to really dislike this chick. Good luck, man.
This post has been edited by ilyushin: Tue Dec 13, 2011 09:37 AM
Posted Tue Dec 13, 2011 11:19 AM
Posted Tue Dec 13, 2011 12:08 PM
Posted Tue Dec 13, 2011 09:03 PM
what is this comment?
Posted Tue Dec 13, 2011 10:00 PM
what is this comment?
Man The Fuck Up. Maybe.
And yes, you're doing it wrong. Setting the precedent that you'll do all the shit she won't because you're the good little husband is only going to make life hell down the road.
This post has been edited by mr_curve: Tue Dec 13, 2011 10:02 PM
Posted Wed Dec 14, 2011 01:22 AM
Have you ever actually TALKED bout what you expected each other to do in terms of working and taking care of the house? You'd be amazed how many people just assume.. Are you completely ignoring things she does do because you're not there to see her do them?
Posted Wed Dec 14, 2011 01:31 AM
Guess I join the psychos but this is exactly the right answer. I'm a firm believer in living with someone for a few years prior to marriage - you can detect this sort of bad/selfish behavior early and bail. My advice would be to try to rectify it, but don't stay too long in this marriage, it sounds like a recipe for unhappiness you can't afford.
Posted Wed Dec 14, 2011 09:26 AM