Getting my girlfriend to be more adventurous
Posted Mon Dec 19, 2011 11:47 AM
My first post here.. I have just started going out with a girl and I'm slightly worried that she is quite insecure and very nervous about experimenting or trying new things in bed. We have had sex quite a few times now but it's always missionary as she doesn't like going on top and although she loves it and gets into it (scratching my back, moaning etc) I'd like to try more positions and relax with it a bit more. She doesn't want me to go down on her which is something I love to do but I know it's not for every girl and she has only just started going down on me as she told me she thought she was really bad on it.. I have told her that she is actually amazing at it and she is.
Another odd thing is just doesn't like to have sex with her top off which is annoying me because I like stimulating tits and think it makes me more pleasurable for her. To be honest I know it will take time for her to open up to me and unlike the majority of my exes she probably won't want to try everything straight away but what tips would you have for opening her up more and making her more comfortable? I want our sex life to be exciting not predictable and at the moment that's what it's becoming and I don't want it continue like this.
Posted Mon Dec 19, 2011 12:00 PM
Maybe try another intimate position, like spooning.
Get some good quality erotic stories, written by women, and read them with her. See if the stories have any positions you would like to try. Also, if she is shy about expressing what she likes, this could help with that too.
If she was ever abused sexually, you may have to just be patient. And encourage her to talk to a therapist.
Does she let you touch her breasts under her shirt, or at all?
Posted Mon Dec 19, 2011 12:08 PM
Yeah she is alright when I'm touching her breasts under her top etc.. It just seems she doesn't like to have her top off..
I don't think she been sexually abused it's nothing that serious, I am her first proper bf, and maybe the only guy she has slept with who she has felt a deeper connection with where as I have had a few more partners than her.
As to going down on her just tells me it's weird and she doesn't like the thought of it where as if she let me do it I think she would go wild. I know I may just have to be patient, we have only been seeing each other for a month or so but I don't want it to get boring to soon if that makes sense.
Posted Mon Dec 19, 2011 12:19 PM
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Posted Sat Dec 24, 2011 04:07 PM
Either way, good luck!
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Posted Tue Dec 27, 2011 02:50 AM
Perhaps you can get her to get naked in a non-sexual situation, ie: massage, shower, nude swimming... and keep it platonic to give her a chance to feel comfortable in her own skin. Sounds like once she discovers how great all the experimental stuff can be that she will be a wild cat. But she may have hangups from childhood telling her that sex is a chore, or for procreation, and women aren't meant to enjoy it. it would help to know her religious background on this matter too.