death of spouse
Posted Mon Jan 02, 2012 01:05 AM
Posted Mon Jan 02, 2012 01:06 AM
Posted Mon Jan 02, 2012 01:29 AM
Thank you so much saintnailpolish...its really difficult when ones comfort zone ,for last 25 years is all destroyed...
Posted Mon Jan 02, 2012 02:07 PM
I lost my wife several years ago and I married 2 years later.
I was very fortunate to find that special person, but, I went through some very difficult times.
Bottom line is, only you can make that call and you will know when you are ready.
Posted Mon Jan 02, 2012 04:40 PM
As for dating, as stated earlier, it's gonna be different for everyone. Some people will never want to date anyone again. As friends of these people, all we can do is keep an eye on them and help them acheive happiness in other pursuits in their life.
Posted Tue Jan 03, 2012 01:24 PM
Posted Wed Jan 04, 2012 01:11 AM
I think it depends on how your spouse died, too. If there was a long term illness, it's possible that you can process the mourning process while they were dying, if it's a sudden shock, then it may take you a lot longer to come to terms with.
Some people need another person in their life to enable them to move on, and some feel that they're cheating, as they're not ready to let go of the spouse.
Do what you feel is right, and tell anyone who wants to have an opinion on the matter to butt out and mind their own business.
Posted Wed Jan 04, 2012 07:00 AM
I dont see there is a right or wrong time here what ever feels right for the person but people do judge
as they always do esp if you knew the person while your spouse was alive they will believe you were carrying on as I have heard it so tastefully put !