Need advice on friends wife
Posted Wed Jan 04, 2012 03:19 PM
Posted Wed Jan 04, 2012 04:07 PM
Your best hope is if your wife joins in
Posted Wed Jan 04, 2012 04:14 PM
If your respective partners are OK with it, you can all enjoy it together.
If, on the other hand, it is all hide and lie, then, you've gotta ask yourself if that's the kind of person you wanna be: a cheater, a liar... only you can decide.
Posted Wed Jan 04, 2012 04:50 PM
Be very careful and decide if the risk is worth it, probably not.
You are married, if you want to stay that way, let it go.
Posted Wed Jan 04, 2012 05:20 PM
Is she a Hotwife? ...or is it more a cheating situation?
If she's a hotwife then I say "go for it" if it's cheating then you have to let your conscience be your guide. (and would you fuck around on your own wife?)
If you don't know what a hotwife is, read my profile, LOL That should get you started. basically a hotwife is a woman that has sex with men besides her husband with her husband's knowledge, approval, and encouragement.
Hotwifing is related to swinging , and many swingers participate in both types of activities. the onl real difference is that "Swinging" is usually thought of ad coup-le-couple play, orgies, etc while "Hotwifing" is more liie MFM, MMF, MFMMMM, and such. You may also see hotwifing described as "wifesharing"
Sometimes the husband in a hotwife couple is referred to as a "cuck" (short for "cuckold" however many times this is completely incorrect as "cuckolding" is only a part of hotwifing. Cuckolding is a subculture in hotwifing (as hotwifing is also a subculture of swinging) where the husband is submissive in a sense to the wife or her "lover" (sometimes called a "bull") of sometimes , both of them. However it can also mean that the wife is fucking other men without the husband's consent... which really is the traditional meaning of being "cuckolded" I'll catch some flack on this point because some people have taken to referring to the husband as a "cuck", mainly IMO for lack of a more descriptive term... to those I say "words matter" and point out that's why we don't call a Cadillac as donut.
One thing is certain hotwifers have animosity towards swingers and some swingers have an equal dislike of hotwifers (depending on what that hotwife couple is actually doing.... all of this is completely unjustified, of course although many hotwifers say that swingers "just don't understand hotwifing"
Here's the thing... if you suspect she's a hotwife... how do you go about figuring that out? Assuming she doesn't come out and actually tell you then need to be observant
Does her hubby show you naked pics of her? Does he encourage her to dress sexy or continually point out to other men how sexy or horny she is? Does it seem like he goes out of his way to leave you alone with her or does she go out of her way to be alone with you? Do you get the idea that her hubby might be encouraging situations where other men might see her naked or be alone with her... has he been encouraging strip poker games or something similar like maybe suggesting that you could all skinny dip in their pool?
There's no really clear-cut way to tell if they're not being obvious but a really good indication would be something like if she (or her hubby) told you in reference to the incident "It's OK, (her husband) doesn't mind" or "he likes it"
I don't have enough time or space here to mention all the types of scenarios that a hotwifing couple might participate in, but a few would be (of course) the generic "threesome" or "MFM" where the wife gets to have sex with her hubby at more or less the same time in whatever way they want, voyeurism where the husband just watches or the "waiter/dater" situation where the husband allows the wife to go out with other men with the intention that they will have sex (the husband "waits" and the wife "dates") or perhaps will return home for the hubby to watch or even in some situations the hubby be in another room listening to the wife having sex with her other partner and or be denied sex with the wife while the other male is there (a type of cuckolding scene)
If you want to know more about hotwifing, message me and I have some material you would be interested in.
This post has been edited by cumproof: Wed Jan 04, 2012 05:35 PM
Posted Wed Jan 04, 2012 05:25 PM
You've gotta ask yourself what are you really interested in in this situation? Is it her, the attention, the thrill of it being risky??
The thing that driving you crazy is not necessarily her - she is just the embodiment of what really going on. Talking about it helps for sure - SF is as good a place as any.
But acting on that feeling for her is not going to help in any real way.
Good luck dude...
Posted Wed Jan 04, 2012 05:44 PM
Posted Wed Jan 04, 2012 06:27 PM
Her seeming embarrassed could be true, but exactly what is she embarrassed about? Her hubby talking about it or the (possible) fact that she might be thing she would enjoy it.
A lot of hotwifing couples start out that way, and many times the woman is embarrassed/reluctant to get things going. If the hubby is driving this he may find in short order that he's created a sex monster, LOL (yes, it happens)
There are both positives and negatives for them to choose someone they know (often this is because the wife is indeed shy and hubby is asking "if you would want to do it, who would it be with") If you are the one they chose, assuming that your wife is OK with it (up to you, read my earlier post) Dodn't be one of the negatives and if it happens don't be one of those guys that comes around and wants to play all the time.
Remember... just because it happens once doesn't give you any rights at all to fuck her again. She may decide it wasn't as much fun as she thought, hubby may make a similar assessment, or they may decide to take a break for whatever reason... like starting a family.
Above all, if this happens don't ever tell your buddies about it, especially mutual friends... they may want in on the action and come around and cause problems. I know this from personal experience, LOL.
Posted Sun Jan 08, 2012 06:33 PM
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Posted Sun Jan 08, 2012 07:20 PM
I think you should also take the opportunity to think why this has happened and what it means in relation to your marriage.
You shouldn't feel guilty that things like this happen, but it's important that you understand the consequences that they may carry as well as the effect it may have on others.
In my humble opinion, this may be an indication of marital problems.
Posted Mon Jan 09, 2012 08:45 AM
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Posted Thu Jan 12, 2012 04:47 AM
After you frisk them for guns ................
Posted Thu Jan 12, 2012 05:25 AM
no win situ I would think
esp as your already having guilty feelings so to go any further maynot be all its cracked up to be
good luck !