Possible first date ever
Posted Fri Jan 06, 2012 12:30 AM
Posted Fri Jan 06, 2012 12:47 AM
As a female who sometimes has no clue she is being wooed (lol), I always prefer honest dudes=I want to date you,Im interested in you.I like to have a clear vision so I know where to stand.
Anyway, all I can say is "Enjoy yourself".Sometimes we get too caught up and forget to just chill and enjoy the moment !!
Nothing is more appealing that someone relax and at ease, smiling and laughing ! So be yourself
Posted Fri Jan 06, 2012 01:18 AM
First thing you need to learn is to just act natural. Your brain is designed to pick up on subtle body language clues and adjust behavior accordingly, so go with your instincts (unless your instincts are to rip your clothes off, scream like a banshee and dunk your dick into someones coffee... Just... trust me when I say that does not ever end well).
Best option for a first date: ask her where she wants to go (subtly if possible, overtly if not). Most women love the board walk, but again, assuming that everyone loves something is going to end in disaster and possibly with you having to register as a sex offender, and that is a very awkward conversation to have with your kids one day when you tell them about the naked spaceman at the police station incident...
Now, as for the kissing, hugging, holding hands, physical contact, etc. Don't expect it, but treat it as... hmmmm... kinda like you'd treat a present, or a summons to appear before a judge to answer for certain... public acts of indiscretion that allegedly ended with a bunch of donuts... well that's not important. Treat displays of physical affection as something you didn't quite expect, but in the back of your mind, you're kinda hoping for. Like a flat screen TV on Christmas kinda. Basically, I wouldn't make the first move for physical contact, let her make that move, and observe how she does it. You'll learn a lot about her from that.
For example, if she takes a while, and then slowly reaches over to kinda touch your hand, she's shy, she likes you, and she's wanting to see if you like her back. If she sneaks an arm around your shoulder, she likes you a lot, she's extroverted, and she's fairly sure you like her back. If she pulls out a can of mace and calls the police, then pray to God you brought your lucky butt plug and a special soap carrying case because it's the rape hotel for you mister. And again, there's all forms of variations on those, but just go with the flow because subconsciously, you're better at reading people than you know.
The kiss is the hardest part. At the end of the date, she may kiss you, she may hug you, she may just say goodbye, she may fill out a police report detailing how you showed up in a bumblebee costume with your dick hanging out and started screaming in Spanish. Again, let her make the first move. It's very easy to ruin a potential good thing by being too forward at the end of the date.
Now, apart from the interspersed bits of comedy, you may notice that I've advised you to let her lead the first date. That's important because if you can have her construct her ideal first date, you'll have a blueprint for every date after that. You'll know where she likes to go, what she likes to do, and ideally you'll learn a lot about her personality and character, and in the end, that will help you forge a lasting relationship.
Also, one last bit of advice: do NOT go into this assuming that this is going to blossom into a lifelong romance that will end with you married and raising a family. Statistically speaking, that ain't gonna happen son. You're going to run into something called infatuation, which is going to lead you to think you love this girl more than life itself for a very brief period of time, and if all goes well, she'll run into that too (which leads to mind blowing sex), but trust me, I speak from experience when I say the worst mistake you can ever make is to assume that infatuation is true love. It will only lead to disappointment and heartbreak if you let that happen.
Posted Tue Jan 10, 2012 05:49 AM
Posted Tue Jan 10, 2012 09:57 PM
Don't sweat it iaav...you called her, she knows you called her. If she's interested, she will call you. You need to be ok with her not calling. The temptation to call her will be big...you'll be thinking that one more call and a few of the 'right' words will will jostle things lose, get it going again. Nope. Leave her be.
And I dunno about you, but grocery shopping is a great time to chat on the phone IMO. I mean, would you get off the phone with a girl you were interested in if she called when you were grocery shopping. If a chick is more interested in grocery shopping than she is in me, that would make me just as disinterested in her.
Or should I just forget about the whole situation and assume she isn't interested in me because she never called me back. I'm confused
You have no idea what this girl is honestly thinking. Because she's not told you. She hasn't called you. So, don't call, and don't wait for her to call. Proceed as normal. You'll be best served playing with a girl who wants you...not the girl that doesn't want you. But if she does call, that's great!
As for what to do on a date, do whatever everyone tells you to do and ignore me, but I'm a big proponent of action dates for first dates. Lunch/Dinner + long walks are lots of talking...which can get awkward for poeple who are just learning about eachother. The propensity is high for an awkward exchange, running out of thigns to say, etc. I prefer to simply having a fun time with someone, and worry about convo-heavy dates later. So whether it's roller blading downtown, sledding, paintball...fun, fun, fun beats deep in the beginning.
Posted Wed Jan 11, 2012 08:35 AM
Iaav, I think doing groceries is a perfectly good excuse not to chat... Why she hasn't called you back? I have no idea, and to tell you the truth, it's probably not on her priority list. I'd negotiate the date through text messages...
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