Winter Blues Suggestions for chasing them away.
Posted Wed Jan 18, 2012 06:01 AM
Lately it seems most of my chat friends on IM disappeared, one of which I was lucky enough to meet here but seems to have dropped off the face of the earth with no explanation. Think the loss of her friendship has partly to do with the lonely feeling I have, which is bordering on depression after tonight, it's just a feeling I have in my chest. I really started to open up to her and have some great discussions then gone, makes me question why I even chat here or on-line anymore since it seems people come and out with so much frequency.
I've always had a hard time making and keeping friends, much less getting a GF, it's partly why I came on SF to feel more comfortable and open about sexual things and maybe meet a few cool people. I have but it seems they leave as quickly as them come into my life, quite often they are around as long as I give them attention and feed the need they have, then often they move onto someone else or just disappear. Once even setting up a day/time to meet up, getting ready the day of only to never hear from her with no response to my calls or e-mails, then perhaps when she wanted more attention she came back never making mention of the broken plans.
I've always wondered what it would be like to be a popular guy, one of those good looking guys that just seem to live life and have good things happen to them. They have plenty of friends and girls who seems to come to them without trouble or work. Guess I've always been the funny kid, or at least that's what I use to get people to notice me, I'm just a plain normal guy, a bit chubby I'll admit but an athletic build. I have a good heart but think people take advantage of it, get my hopes up quickly only to have them not turn out the way I had hoped.
I notice women, but never know what to say to them, remember a girl at the supermarket dressed in a lovely dress, a brunette with lovely legs and long hair past her shoulders. I lost track of what was on my list and followed her down a few aisles just admiring her, searching for something to say, perhaps break the ice but knowing I'd never work up the courage. I regained my place on my shopping list for my grilling adventure I was to take part in the next day and go to the check out....when I hear the click of high heels coming up behind me as I wait in line...it's her, but of course I didn't have the guts to say anything, just looked back and tried to smile but sure she didn't even notice. Would have liked to stay something witty, then just let her know how lovely I thought she looked in her dress, doubt anything would come of it but maybe he'd at least think about me later when her day was done and getting ready for bed, about how a guy (me) complimented her on how lovely she looked and it would make her smile.
Well I can see by the clock on my laptop it's now 6:00 so I've been rambling on for 20 minutes that's about 19 minutes too long. Guess I just needed to vent, I'd expect this post to drop down on the list just like just about any other topic I start haha. If by chance you've made it this far, DAMN you must be bored and also sorry for the novel but thanks for whatever reason for reading my thread.
Have a great day
Posted Wed Jan 18, 2012 12:50 PM
Posted Sat Jan 21, 2012 01:28 AM
Posted Sat Jan 21, 2012 03:05 AM
Unfortunately members on these sites come and go quickly. I got on real well with a girl from a different but similar site such as this one, even to the point we were exchanging emails. Im sure she is a real person but suddenly she stopped returning emails so i know how ya feel. Its just the nature of sites such as these, people lose interest in these sites and just move on so dont get too attached to other members, enjoy the chats but accept one day that ya may never hear from them again. Hard to take I know but thats just the way things are.
When i see a girl who i dont know generally i just make eye contact and sometimes i will get a smile in return, if not no big deal or sometimes i will smile first and I generally leave it at that. But it still gives me a warm fuzzy feeling and im sure it will give you the same feeling. And im far from the being the most attractive guy around, im just an average looking guy. If you do want to say something, just make a comment on the weather or how busy it is in the shop or soemthing etc, it doesnt have to be your life story and im sure the girls will return your comment. Or when your at the checkout, just start some simple convo with them, hows there day been etc and that will help you feel contected to the outside world, even if it is brief or you never get to see them again.
Well i hope you feel better real soon,
Posted Sat Jan 21, 2012 09:24 AM
I have a little bit of SAD [Seasonal Affective Disorder] mainly because I can't deal with the little daylight we have in the Northern regions during winter. The cities in Eastern Canada aren't too bad really, and I barely feel it now, so I can go my business like in any other season. However, I once lived in Edmonton (over 50th parallel) and it was difficult.
Anyway... Guys, for those of you who feel lonely and would like to talk to women (or men) on the streets in a relaxed manner. Do it! I feel talking to people in the supermaket, bus stops, libraries, and so on, is a good thing. It certainly will reinstate the feeling of connectiveness to others, which is probably what you're feeling during the winter months because we spend so much time inside and alone in our own homes... Unless we happen to live with others in the same household like me.
You see, I lived in Montreal for a few years, and men there are very social... Not all of them of course. Very often, men would approach me and tell me things about the weather, or compliment me about something I was wearing. Sometimes they would go as far as asking me personal, though not sexual, questions, and I would always reply. You shouldn't talk to people out of the blue though. Always establish eye contact, smile, eye contact, then say something nice. It's a good exercise, and it will make you feel good.
Posted Tue Feb 28, 2012 10:06 PM
You can't sleep? Things that make me sleep better are: a good book, a little alcohol (only 1 drink), and masturbation.
Feeling unhappy? Things that make me happy are: a good book, a little alcohol (only 1 drink), and masturbation.
My post isn't going to fix all your problems, but I think that you can if you try.
I get Seasonal Affective Disorder, I live in Canada, I get up it is dark, I go to work, it is dark, I leave work, it is dark. It is a bummer. Since this is Sex Forums, let me give you some advice that is fitting with the venue. On the way home go to a jiggle joint, get a beer and a lap dance (preferably from a girl whose boobs are motorboatable - yeah, I checked your profile) and see if that doesn't turn your frown upside down. If that doesn't work, I am sure you can figure something out.
Life sometimes is about the little things. Try to think about something that you are grateful at least once a day. Then try to do something that makes you happy once a day. I recommend a good book, a little alcohol (only 1 drink), and masturbation.
This post has been edited by Davendra: Tue Feb 28, 2012 10:10 PM
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