Long time reader, first time poster here. I guess this is sort of a 'problem' I've been noticing recently. A little background before I go into it, though:
I am a female and I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. When we first started dating our sex life was amazing because we were able to spend so much time with each other and explore our likes and dislikes in the bedroom so thoroughly. As of the last year or so, oral sex has been a little different. I've noticed that even though I use all my signature pleasure moves on my man (ones I know he likes and gets off on) he---rarely, but sometimes---goes a little soft during oral sex. I can always get him hard again and get him off, but the fact that it happens every once in a while is a little troubling for me.
I've let it go for the most part because I didn't want to embarrass him or anything, but I did get a little self-conscience about it all. I asked him about it once after it happened and he really didn't have much of an answer for me. I asked him if I was over-stimulating him or if he had something on his mind (or if it was me or something I was doing wrong) and the only reason he could give me was that he had pleasured himself earlier in the day to last longer when we had sex.
I'm not super-keen on how guys function, but is that a valid reason for what's happening or should I be concerned that there's something he is not telling me?
I'm kind of stressing out about this and would really appreciate some honest thoughts or hear from people who have experienced the same thing.
This post has been edited by theordinaryone: Sun Feb 05, 2012 04:29 PM