This Is A Rant
Posted Fri Mar 02, 2012 12:57 PM
Our sex life WAS one of the best things about our relationship. He used to joke that I let out this sex monster in him. The sex we had made up for a lot of the other things about him I wasn't so sure about in the beginning. I let off stress through sex, and when I don't get any (GOOD) sex, I get grumpy. He knows this. I think I pushed him too hard for better sex. I think he feels like he's not good enough because he doesn't make me orgasm at all anymore. And now, I don't know what to say to make things better. He's withdrawn and we barely have sex once a day. I feel like I've already said too much, and I want to let time just work things out on its own, but I'm not happy. Masturbating isn't enough, I want HIM.
He'll come up behind me when I'm in the kitchen and press himself into me. He doesn't want sex, he's just playing, but this small move ignites a flame in me. I have to push him away and tell him to stop because it's not fair to me. And this hurts us both. I can feel his disappointment, and he can feel mine. It's just this huge snowball effect that is leading to a worse and worse sex life.
I've been trying to distance myself from him so I don't keep f-ing everything else up in our relationship. I feel like I've already put a huge rift in our relationship by pressuring him for a better sex life but I just can't get over it. Sex is so, so, so important to me. I woke up this morning and I was frustrated at everything. I keep thinking, is sex really going to be the reason why we break up? It's become such a huge issue lately that he told me he feels like the only time I come to just be with him and hang out is when I want sex. And he's right. Because I don't orgasm and I'm not satisfied, I want it more and more frequently in hopes that in one of those sessions, I will orgasm. I hate the fact that I'm so unhappy and it makes things worse. Who wants to have sex with someone who is grumpy and irritable all the time? I know I'm pushing him away. I know I'm making things worse. I wish I could just get over this whole sex thing because it's not worth wasting away our otherwise wonderful relationship.
Posted Fri Mar 02, 2012 01:32 PM
This is the time to turn around and strip and make love in the kitchen....Don't push him away...Don't tell him to stop....Encourage him!
As for the sex once a day...GREAT! Encourage him to do it a little different...Encourage him to 69 with you...show him how to help you
orgasm! And when you Orgasm....love him and spoil him.
Posted Fri Mar 02, 2012 01:48 PM
I've tried this multiple times. Sometimes we'll get going and stop before any penetration happens like a teaser, and sometimes he'll just flat out reject & stop me before any clothes can come off. Either way I just end up hurt and frustrated. It's not fun playing these games when I never end up on the winning side of it.
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Posted Mon Mar 05, 2012 12:36 PM
sex should be mutual, it wont work if one is asking all the time whilst the other refuses.
Fore play, oral sex, and toys can make you orgasm saving him from reaching the finish line first, allowing you time to have that big O you miss so much.
If he is knowingly teasing you over sex, it could be crossing the line between teasing and just frustrating/annoying, which is disastrous for a sexual relationship. Sit down and talk to him, tell him you want to have better sex less often (maybe 2 times a week)
And try not to become stressed over the situation, it will show during sex and you may be busy concentrating on an orgasm, just let it come, it will, but a man needs to use more than just his weener to get a lady to O. and if hes a man he will enjoy doing it! so will you