Advice Girls need your advice
Posted Sat Apr 28, 2012 08:15 AM
Ive been talking to an old ex girlfriend online recently and would like to find out if she still has feelings etc for me. Obviously i dont wanna just ask her out right. At the moment we are still doing thar respectfull 'hi how are you' talk. So my question is, how should i approach this. How do i turn the conversation more flirty and sexualised without sounding creepy or pervy? X
Posted Sat Apr 28, 2012 08:20 AM
Posted Sat Apr 28, 2012 08:27 AM
You have to look for openings and comment on what she says, ask her about what has been going on with her life. If you have access to her photos on social media and what not, leave flirty comments that still sound polite.
And then, there's nothing wrong about asking her to hang out or even go out on a date.
Posted Sat Apr 28, 2012 03:17 PM
Posted Mon Apr 30, 2012 10:59 AM
If you want to get this chick back, you need to re-invent yourself. Not just faking it, because women see through that or they will after a time. You need to be way more awesome than you were when you two broke up. Awesome enough or new enough that it eclipses the old negative feeling that you are associated with that caused the split in the beginning. To do this, the easiest way is to totally forget about her and concentrate on you. Take up several new hobbies, get in shape, travel, get some perspective in life. You do this, two thing will happen, one you WILL change, and two, after the change, you'll realize there are other fish in the sea.
Posted Mon Apr 30, 2012 11:17 AM
Good luck trying to play a dumb game.
Posted Mon Apr 30, 2012 12:13 PM
But seriously...roughly twice a year? If she doesn't want to rekindle the old flame then you really need to move on to someone else.
Posted Tue May 01, 2012 06:19 AM
Posted Tue May 01, 2012 08:10 AM
Have you ever seen the book: He's just not that into you? Where the authors tell girls that if a guy doesn't call back, and doesn't do this that or the other, he's really not interested, he's just keeping you as a fill-in or back up plan.... the same goes for girls. If you're really interested in someone, you want to contact them, talk to the all the time, and you pursue it.
Another rule I have: exes are exes for a REASON. Learn from it, let it go, MOVE ON. You are still the same two people who didn't work out before. Has something altered to make the reason you broke up redundant? Probably not.
Stop feeding her ego with your desperate hope, and get out there and meet a girl who wants you as much as you want her. The ex is a safety net, toss it away and take a leap of faith into the unknown. Until you let yourself make that leap, you will never realise your full dating potential as you'll always be emotionally attached to her, and therefore unavailable to any girls who might really be into you.
Posted Tue May 01, 2012 10:04 AM