Posted Tue May 15, 2012 09:52 PM
start kissing the inside of her thighs,
work slowly towards her pussy ,
start kissing on the outside of her pussy,
spread her pussy lips open
start licking just inside of her pussy lips... starting at the bottom
work your way up ... flickering your tongue deeper into her pussy
work you way up to her clit
flicker your tongue on her clit.. till she moans n squirms
Posted Wed May 16, 2012 09:08 AM
This is going to be different for every women, so it's hard to give advice because I don't know what kind of stimulation she likes.
But I can tell you what I like, which is likely pretty typical, and you could try some of those things.
- When it comes to oral, I like it wet. Even during sex, I like to be well-lubricated. For oral, make sure you're using enough saliva when you're licking her - especially her clit. If she's not wet enough, it could feel too intense and provide too much friction.
- Don't just focus on her clit - especially right away. Licking and sucking around her pussy lips, penetration with your tongue, and rimming (licking around her anus) are all things that I like. (With rimming, you should probably tread lightly. She may not like anal stimulation.)
- When it comes to my clit, I like gentle, feather-light flicks over it or in circles around it. I also like having my clit gently sucked. As with oral on a guy, please don't use your teeth. I don't like being bitten or nibbled down there at all.
- Multiple types and areas of stimulation really get me going. While licking or sucking her clit, use your fingers inside her pussy or ass (if she likes anal stimulation). I go crazy when my guy fingers my pussy and ass at the same time that he's licking my clit. If she doesn't like anal stimulation, you could also try licking her while playing around her breasts and nipples.
Posted Sun May 27, 2012 02:30 PM
I absolutely love to be teased, so take your time before you get to my clit. It heightens sensitivity so when you do run your tongue over it - wow.
Take your time and watch what you are doing, don't just dive in without coming up for air.
I don't like it rough and watch any stubble.
If I am on my knees, lick my arse by all means, but keep your nose out of it. That just feels wrong!
Posted Thu May 31, 2012 11:03 AM
Miss_C's comments remind me of a favorite technique of mine. As others have noted, every woman is different, and everyone has different levels of comfort touching them differently, but if your partner is comfortable with her body and relatively low on the inhibition scale something I've had great success with is as follows.
First, you obviously have to build very, very slowly. I start by kissing, licking and sucking very gently, and usually nowhere near her clit for the first 10 or 15 minutes. Work up to sliding your tongue deep into her, then eventually flicking across the clit, then back off again. Lots of teasing here. After 20 minutes or more once you build to licking everywhere, then drop down and visit her backdoor, lubing it up nicely with your tongue (a little rim job along with the cunnilingus). This requires several visits down, then back up, then later back down again. You not only are lubing her up but also relaxing the muscles around her anus while doing this.
After all the teasing, licking and sucking she should be giving signs she is ready. Once it's clear, I would then lube my middle finger and thumb up with my saliva, then gently slide my middle finger into her anus and my thumb into her vagina (super slow and gentle here, you don't want to surprise or hurt her).Then I would sort of do circles with my thumb and middle finger 180 degrees off (i.e. thumb retracted and finger extended, then circle around counter-clockwise till it's the opposite). Kind of like rubbing my thumb and finger together in a circular motion through her vaginal and anal wall. While I am doing this I would also very gently suck on her clit (some would prefer tongue flicking here, but usually light sucks were preferable).
Up to this point it was a lot of changing up, teasing, doing things different all the time so it was all a slow build and impossible for her to reach orgasm, but once I had the finger and thumb in and I was sucking it would turn to repetitive and rhythmic, with no variation until she climaxes. I liked to keep it slow and light even here so it still took a while to build.
A lot of women may be turned off by this technique, but of the ones that were comfortable with it and allowed me to go forward all reported intense, deep, multiple orgasms. Most described it with some variation of "starting deep in my body and then spreading out to my toes and fingertips." Of those same ones I always got requests for frequent, repeat performances.
Feel free to try this, but I would describe it first to the recipient, unless your partner is the really uninhibited type and you are certain they would be OK with it.
This post has been edited by Dudley Fuddpucker: Thu May 31, 2012 11:07 AM
Posted Fri Jun 01, 2012 06:33 AM
Good advice above. Also pay attention to her reaction. If she moans or moves in a way of pleasure, continue what you're doing. If she lifts her body up putting your tongue lower lick lower. Think of it as a blow job in reverse. I move my body a lot to get my penis at the right angle in her mouth. If she moves lick accordingly. Cunnalingus is all about her.
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Posted Thu Jun 28, 2012 06:17 AM
Very good observation there, grahamjohn. Simple change in rhythm or the area being caressed at the wrong moment almost always kills it. Learned that myself hard way ...
Posted Fri Jun 29, 2012 06:56 AM
For example I like direct clitoris stimulation. At first gentle then harder. And the best thing is to concentrate on this spot.
My GF prefer avoiding clit at start and like to have caressed labia lips.
One thing is quite certain - when lips are getting harder, you are on good way.
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Posted Tue Jul 03, 2012 09:00 AM
Firm slow pressure : use a "flat wide soft tongue," pointed hard tongue needs light pressure. In general, the faster the speed the lighter the pressure / More pressure = slower speed!
Here is my finishing technique that I use a lot (BUT NOT ALL THE TIME!) :
I have full lips so this works well. And you must be freshly shaved. While spreading my wifes pussy and kind of pushing her legs back with my forearms, I will use my top lip to make firm slow circles around her clit while at the same time my tongue is working inside her pussy. Focus on lighter lip, stronger tongue with small circular movements then increase movement and pressure as she starts to cum. Can add the finger to the ass right when she starts to cum. This is the technique that years ago her exact quote was "Oh my god, how are you doing that? No don't stop!"