I haven't really been dating much, and those whom I have seen are those who have "reappeared". Two are gone due to incompatibility. Good riddance!
There are a couple I'm not sure about.
Bachelor #1 - I'm crazy about him, but am trying not to be forward about it. However, when he starts to text me and things get intimate, I give in. I have even sent pics to him that I would regret sending to anyone else. HAHA He has a young daughter, and I'm sure that he deletes these illicit photos.
I've known him for two years, and met him initially on a dating website (I am so done with those). He broke up without saying a word - he just disappeared. He reappeared on my 40th birthday, saying how beautiful and fun I was. We've had sex a few times sense meeting up again, but it's not enough for me. What should I do??
Bachelor #2 - He lives about 200 miles away. I visited him early last month, but did NOT sleep with him. In fact - I've never slept with him. Even though I know he wants to really bad.
However - my heart is with #1. But I get the feeling (again) that I'm wasting my time. I know in my heart he's not ready for me, even though we have a great friendship and sexual connection. I really think he cares about me, but isn't ready to take things further. Sometimes I feel as though if I wait it out, good things will happen. But I'm starting to lose faith in this, and reality is quite the bitch, eh?
#2 - Not really attracted to him, but think the sex might be great. He seems eager to please me. However, as much as I love great sex and instant gratification, I'm wary. I've known #2 for 20 years, and don't want to mess things up by having sex with someone I'm not sure about. And besides that - like I said, he's not really attractive to me.
I think I know what you're going to say, and I guess I need to be slapped in the face with it. Sometimes we put blinders on, and I really think someone needs to yank them off. I may be 40, but I don't look 40. I keep telling myself not to settle, but it's really difficult when you're my age and you're done with the bar scene. And then you get those guys who ARE my age and say that I'm being too picky or harsh. When they're the ones that go for 20 year-olds (no offense, ladies - you rock, and you know it). It's hard to hook-up or even meet people. I don't have kids to meet others through the parent circuit, so there you go.
Be brutally honest, yet gentle. That's why I'm here. Please help me...
This post has been edited by Lovely1028: Sun May 27, 2012 04:39 PM