Posted Tue May 29, 2012 11:52 PM
If it's okay to continue to be ourselves then what are some things to help keep the naughtiness from innocent eyes? Because we all know that kids are master spies when it comes to getting into things.
Posted Wed May 30, 2012 12:37 AM
Posted Wed May 30, 2012 12:49 AM
Posted Wed May 30, 2012 12:55 AM
Posted Wed May 30, 2012 12:56 AM
However - I think it's good for any child to see a healthy relationship with their parents. My parents always fought, and were hardly ever affectionate. I think everything you do influences that child, and having a healthy relationship with your wife (in every way) can be healthy to that person you bring into this world.
Watch your porn, but keep it safe. Just like you would knives and forks.
Eventually, the questions will come up about what's going on, but you'll cross that when you get there - right?
Good luck to you and your wife!
Posted Wed May 30, 2012 07:15 AM
Computers have really come down in price too, so maybe getting their own computer and safe guarding both it and yours might be a good idea when the time comes. But as the saying goes "inquisitive minds want to know" so don't be too shocked or even thinking of outraged when it does happen...it probably will no matter what you do.
Posted Wed May 30, 2012 08:34 AM
Posted Wed May 30, 2012 10:28 AM
Surely you can find ways of hiding stuff from young (and short!) people! And get an iPad to watch porn together in bed.
For the first few years, you are free to do most things you did before, once the kids are in bed. You can bath together, for instance, without them knowing or caring. Even if they catch you at it (ours never did) they won't see enough and are not old enough to understand, so it can't have a negative effect - unless you are into serious bondage or something.
Then come the teenage years when they start asking questions if they hear stuff or suspect things, and eventually they are old enough to stay up after you've gone to bed.
That's when you find sex is not so much fun in the dark, only in bed, done very quietly and when not leaving evidence of your activity, such as lingerie in the wash, become issues.
The answer then is to find time for yourself and make more of the times they are not around - but that's years off for you.
Parenthood and sex are two of the great joys of life - and the best news is you certainly don't have to choose one instead of the other.
Posted Wed May 30, 2012 02:18 PM
Posted Wed May 30, 2012 05:38 PM
I can say without hesitation that our sex life has got better and better over the years
Our porn and toy collection grows every year.
It is a nonsense to suggest that things cannot be kept away from kids. Christmas is going to be very dull if you don't have hiding places from the kids!
It can take a bit more effort to create opportunities but the effort can be fun.
Early years can be tiring and that did affect us for a while, but a strong marriage will come through stronger.
Posted Thu May 31, 2012 11:20 AM
iv teenager's 17 & 20... there very nosy... & have never found my toys... well not that i know of & im sure i would have heard !!!