How do I enjoy penetration?
Posted Sun Jul 01, 2012 09:29 AM
He's not gotten me to orgasm yet and I've given him the book 'she comes first' which he's reading and putting some of the techniques into practice. I get close and need to finish myself off with a vibe. This I'm ok with.
When it come to pentration it seems that all he's interested in doing is getting himself off. It lasts 2 minutes. I don't find it enjoyable, there's no good feelings and he sticks to one position. He knows I like lazy doggy as it feels good but never wants to do it. How do I try to encourage him to try to last longer and try to make it feel good for me too?
Posted Sun Jul 01, 2012 09:48 AM
Posted Sun Jul 01, 2012 10:12 AM
Posted Sun Jul 01, 2012 02:32 PM
Man, hate to be brusque here...but right now he's treating you like a sex object. If it's the "cum too fast thing", Jade is right, condoms help that by taking some of the sensation away- unfortunately for both people though. Tell him to take breaks, to switch things up. When he STARTS to get a feeling like he's going to cum, he needs to do one or more of the following...first, slow his stroke, even stop...and maybe pull out....if he needs to. If you (the girl) are close to cumming when he does, don't worry, letting him break is okay b/c he will be able to get back at it and get you there eventually. Second, when he's slowing down/stopping/pulling out temporarily...he NEEDS to switch things up. That diversity/change you're saying you need...this is the perfect time for it! He can kiss you on your neck, lips, tongue-kiss...lick and suck on your nipples, while massaging/rubbing his hands over varying parts of your body to keep you sexually into it,...and just when you get lost in this new arousal...bam...he's ready for to penetrate you again, and hopefully get you there...
Anticipation, teasing...are things that can work during sex also.
If he's not willing to try things to get you to cum...imo, he only care about getting his. But if he's reading that book, I take that as a sign he's trying, and wants to. Booting him for bad sex means booting him as a person -a person that you might care about too, so I guess you weighing that...so. So, make your own choice on what you think is best... Good luck to you
This post has been edited by KNovember: Sun Jul 01, 2012 02:35 PM
Posted Sun Jul 01, 2012 05:44 PM
Ask him what positions he likes. Tell him what you need him to do.
Slowing down his climax takes time and practice but that is no excuse for leaving you not enjoying it.
Can you bring yourself to orgasm without a vibe?
Could you stimulate your Clint during intercourse?
Posted Sun Jul 01, 2012 06:01 PM
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Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 09:54 AM
Posted Sun Jul 08, 2012 09:16 PM
Removing that worry, usually will help stamina. Not thinking about it and time flies!
Lots of Foreplay is always a good idea, too. It will get both of your motors going before you're off to the races!
Try masturbating in front of him, it will get you closer and get him going! Never know you might just show him
what you like, too!