prolife or prochoice which are you?
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 06:09 PM
ok so those that know me know i'm in school, going for my associates in business- i'm currently taking an English Comp 101 course, so my topic (chosen by my professor) is I have to write a compare/contrast on prolife/prochoice...
I myself am prochoice, while abortion isnt something i would personally do i do think we should still have the option. Of course if something horrible happened to me and i was R word and got pregnant that way then yes i would consider terminating the pregnancy- now me being prochoice all of my bullet points are prochoice- i have very few in the prolife place...
so what i am needing from you all- I want to know if you are prolife or prochoice and why- i'm not here to argue with you and dont want any arguments started. Like i say this is for a class essay and any help is greatly appreciated.
Are you one or the other or both? If you are prochoice why? If you are prolife why? Or are you a little of each, also would like to know why
thanks in advanced for helping and again, i know this is a touchy subject so lets keep this simple if you would rather send me your response to my PM that is fine too
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 06:16 PM
i thing it is ur choice in life if something bad like the r word happen to u then u must do what is right for u and that baby
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 06:26 PM
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 06:29 PM
i am pro-choice, all the way.
if i got pregnant tomorrow, i would almost certainly get an abortion. i am young, i do not have the funds for a child, i do not have a man worthy of being a baby daddy in my life and i have priorities such as my schooling that i need to stay focused on. i do use birth control, but it's not 100% effective and accidents happen. a condom breaking should not force a baby onto a woman or a couple who are not ready for one. i'm not going to abstain from sex just because i don't want a baby. sex for me isn't just about procreating and i will do it as i please, and even though i do take the necessary precautions, like i said, it's not always foolproof.
also, my body is mine and i want to decide when a fetus gets to set up camp in there. i will have a child when i am ready to have one, for the benefit of both myself and the baby i want to have in the future. i want my child to be born into a life of love, security and stability and right now i don't really have all of those things to give, and as i want what's best for my future child i would rather them be born at a time where they can be cared for and nurtured the way they deserve.
also i just really think the government and anyone else who is not involved in my life at all should stay out of my uterus. if you don't think abortions are right, don't get one. what i do with my body is my business.
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 06:31 PM
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 06:33 PM
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Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 06:40 PM
A friend of mine got an abortion because she was nowhere ready to have kid as far as her maturity and life situation dictated. The guy wasn't interested in the kid. She weighed her options and went through with it. And for as much as she doesn't talk about it and tries to act like everything is fine, it still weighs on her heavily. Every now and then it just builds up and comes crashing down. It's definitely not something one does and easily forgets (and if it is, that's the kind of person that needs to get "fixed" at the same time). One day she'll have a child, but I don't think it will be for quite a while.
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 06:57 PM
I also don't think that if a woman gets pregnant as a result of sexual assault that she should have to bring the child into the world. I don't think I'd be able to do it. The kid would be a reminder to me for the rest of my life of what happened, and I'd probably grow to resent them... I wouldn't want to be that child either.
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 06:59 PM
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 07:01 PM
i agree that it shouldnt be used a contraceptive at ALL! but that was one of the similarities i found, both ends say the stress is unimaginable and both sides agree that it shouldnt be used as contraceptive this is all great stuff and just what i needed for a boost on my paper!
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 07:03 PM
i am too for the most part, but there are health reasons that i think can make these necessary in some pregnancies.
edit: and good luck with the paper!
This post has been edited by saintnailpolish: Mon Jul 02, 2012 07:04 PM
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 07:11 PM
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 07:13 PM
But I have a serious problem with the idea of someone getting an abortion because the child is mentally retarded or otherwise not "normal." I have a friend who has a son with cerebral palsy. I have a cousin who is functionally retarded. Autism runs in my family. I can't get behind terminating a pregnancy because the child won't be "normal." Reasons like that keep getting brought up as legitimate reasons to get an abortion, and it hits a little close to home for me.
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 07:19 PM
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 08:24 PM
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 09:07 PM
I'm a fence rider , I can stand on both sides with the situation tipping me to one side or the other , so I'll break my POV into two categories :
ProChoice : I agree with the concept of "Her body , her decision" , but at the same time it often seems to me that the father of the unborn might have a part in that . After all it would be his child as well .
In cases of severe health risk to the mother , nonviable pregnancy/birth defects leading to a child with no Quality of life , the "R" word , incest , or medicaly valid reason I would say it's the parents choice .
ProLife : Abortion should not be used to cure immaturity/irresponsibility IMO .
Condoms are readily available & even provided for free in most cities , no excuse for unprotected sex .
The child's life should not pay the price for the parents carelessness , there are couples out there who would love to have what's about to be killed due to lack of common sense/responsibility .
There's the opinion of a husband of 20 years with two Hellions . I'm 40 years old , from Tennessee , Caucasian .
Feel free to use my demographic in your research >:]
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 09:38 PM
I agree with this completely. Every child brought into this world deserves to be loved and wanted. Forcing women to have babies they don't want makes for a pretty shitty life for those babies.
Posted Mon Jul 02, 2012 10:54 PM
I'm inclined to agree with you, Jade. I'd be reticent to determine whether a fetus is a life or not predicated entirely on what side of the vaginal canal or the belly skin it is on. Premature babies born at 6 months pregnancy are "life", but a fetus that's 6 months into pregnancy but still in the womb is not "life". 6 month fetus is in the womb : Not a life. One meter in any direction (therefore, out of the womb): A life. That's a little too dodgy for me to buy. I'd venture to say, if it has brain waves (alpha, beta, delta, and other neural oscilliation), if it has a heart beat, if it reacts to stimuli like pain, it's probably a life, and I personally wouldn't do it at that point. 4 months is probably where I'd say I wouldn't do it also.
Using abortion as birth control is one of goofiest things I've heard of, tho. Even without the life/not life debate, why would anyone want to use it as a form of birth control? Condoms and 'regular' birth control are less costly and more convenient. You can buy either at any grocery store, costs less than an abortion, and doesn't require a special trip to a clinic and have an invasive procedure done.
Opinions were solicited by the OP, so I chimed in. I'm not a woman, so I have far less a horse in this race than women, but I've faced this decision jointly in the past. We both feel we chose wrong and regret it deeply.
While the assertion that it's better for babies to be aborted because parents aren't ready/don't want them, yeah...there's some truth to that. But to say it's better to abort them because they'll have a shitty life...I'd like to know where you got your crystal ball. "You're probably gonna have a shitty life, so we'll just end it now". Besides, there's a lot more kids that have shitty lives despite their mothers wanting to have them.
I guess it ultimately depends on who's life matters most to society. Forcing women to have babies they don't want can't be a good thing. And I'd be curious to see what people's definition of life is, because if preemies are being born 5-6 months into gestation, and are considered "life" at birth, what about babies that go on after 5-6 months....is it really a matter of location that determines if it's a life?
This post has been edited by ilyushin: Mon Jul 02, 2012 11:04 PM