Married with issues opening the door from MF to MM / MF or MMF
Posted Thu Jul 05, 2012 05:25 PM
Problem: I have been struggling with my own sexuality for over 2 decades. I have recently (within last week) fully accepted that I am Bisexual.
I feel comfortable in my own skin again, but I also want to explore areas of me that I have been denying all this time. We have sex often and it is,
as far as I can tell pleasurable for both of us. I haven't "come out" yet, but I feel I need to tell her.
Solution: Any Ideas SF patrons? I appreciate any advice!
Posted Thu Jul 05, 2012 06:07 PM
If on the other hand she completely rejects any group things going on or you going out solo with a man, then that is something that only the bonds of your love will sort out.
One thing I think in my opinion is that as long as you love each other and are going along great together, there should be no hiding of anything from each other. The worst that I can see happening is maybe she might find your preference odd and since you have dealt with it faithfully all this time, that in itself should be a definite plus in her accepting your revelation. So you have some bi tendencies...not a big deal in my opinion.
You could try going to a therapist too and see what happens from that ...you and your wife
Posted Fri Jul 06, 2012 07:48 AM
Posted Fri Jul 06, 2012 06:12 PM
We have been doing this for years, since before we were married, actually. All but the wanting the real thing part.
Posted Sat Jul 07, 2012 03:52 AM
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Posted Sun Jul 08, 2012 11:28 AM
That is so not true, atleast not for everyone.
My wife has several gay male friends, she adores them. But just because she has no problems with them being gay does not mean that she would ever accept the notion of her husband ( me ) turning gay.
This is a very touchy subject. Peoples opinions change drastically when it happens at home vs what happens in someone elses home. Do not assume just because they accept gays does not automatically mean that they will accept it when it happens within their own relationship.
The only advise to give is for the OP to tread lightly and evaluate his situation before taking a single step further. He must prepare for the worst. Once you open Pandoras box it is impossible to close it.