are homosexuals more compatible than straight couples?
Posted Sat Jul 28, 2012 07:53 AM
i am sure most stright men and women have their differences with their spouses/SO's. there is considerable literature available on the subject. among popular works "MEN ARE FROM MARS WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS" and "WHY WOMEN CAN'T READ MAPS AND WHY MEN DON'T LISTEN" to cite a couple.
to cut it short it is widely believed and with reason that the mental,emotional make-up of men and women are almost diametrically opposite and this culminates in incompatibility ( anything from coping problems to bitter fights to divorce). now considering homosexual couples there SHOULD be no such problems at least in theory as both partners belong to the same gender. have you noticed gay couples to be problem-free to any remarkable degree? responses from gays and straight couples both welcome and appreciated.
Posted Sat Jul 28, 2012 11:24 AM
Posted Sat Jul 28, 2012 07:16 PM
Posted Sun Jul 29, 2012 02:13 AM
Posted Sun Jul 29, 2012 06:20 AM
Nor do I believe that the forces that drive affection to the degree of partnership (call it love if you will or anything else) are markedly different between labels either.
So at the end of the day, in any relationship as they say a little rain is going to fall from time to time. Not only builds character, but gives folks an opportunity to exercise their conflict resolution skills as well as just vent from time to time.
I know a gay and lesbian couple and in their instances, both have endured pretty much the same rigors as any other couple and have weathered the storm for decades together. Same goes for straight folks too.
Do I think there is a difference...nope.
Posted Sun Jul 29, 2012 10:40 AM
The only major difference that gay relationships have from straight relationships is that both partners are the same gender.
Posted Sun Jul 29, 2012 10:43 AM
Posted Sun Jul 29, 2012 10:58 AM
Exactly. I couldn't say it better myself.
Posted Mon Jul 30, 2012 02:21 AM
If arguments are frequent, it's because of the nature of the people in the relationship. My uncle and his partner argued about things often because they had such differing personalities and tastes, yet they were together for 30 years in a very loving relationship.
Whoever believes that either type of couple is better or less argumentative than the other isn't looking at the big picture.
Posted Thu Aug 02, 2012 03:06 AM
Posted Thu Aug 02, 2012 07:24 AM
Posted Fri Aug 03, 2012 05:08 AM
It definitely does seem that homosexuals to have the upperhand in maintaining a mutually satisfying and consistent sex life but I think it stops there. We've all herd that men are more physical and women are much more mental when it comes to sex. Men with other men can easily get the physical release they crave without much trouble because there is a plethora of mates to chose from in search of the same thing. Women with other women are able to provide the mental and emotional satisfaction to each other, and are more than happy to spend a lot of time in the process with little to no physical stimulation. It really doesnt make much sense but it is what it is.
I think the comparability of homosexual couples is more so just sexual. I think that there are certain things men and women look for in a mate that are naturally found in the opposite sex. Then again you do have the homosexual couple where one of the partners is more masculine or feminine, thus essentially providing that aspect of the relationship to a certain degree. If you ever worked in a place with mostly women employees or had a group of girlfriends of 3 or more you've seen how crazy it can be and how they do not get along well at all. Same with men, although its not as crazy all the time but they tend to get too proud or too.competitive, which causes issues.
Are homosexual couples more compatible?
Long-term relationship wise, not so much.
Posted Sun Aug 05, 2012 05:02 PM
Posted Mon Aug 06, 2012 12:42 PM
See now, this apparent "hardwired" stuff you keep talking about is nothing more than gender stereotype. I've seen plenty of gay couples argue about the things you've mentioned above, with about as much frequency as hetero couples apparently do. Now maybe it's because in gay couples, one might play the "femme" role and the other a more masculine or butch role that makes the relationship balance the same way a heterosexual one apparently would. But as far as I can tell... Nope, gonna have to say again, doesn't make a difference, gay or straight. At all.
It's PERSONALITY. Nothing to do with hormones or what you're packin' under your clothes.
Posted Sun Aug 12, 2012 07:52 AM
Posted Sun Aug 12, 2012 08:51 AM
so... i guess i'm a guy then?
Posted Tue Aug 14, 2012 01:53 AM
That was the long answer that really didn't hit your question directly. The short answer is "people are people and regardless of what gender you are into, personality differences exist everywhere".