Regain GF's trust after snooping through her email
Posted Sun Aug 19, 2012 09:08 PM
Anyways she eventually found out that I was on her email somehow and I didnt try to lie to her to get out of it, I told her the truth. Anyways I really messed up and I really love this girl with all of my heart. She was going to break up with me but she gave me another chance. When I go over her house to see her we are still happy as can be. We are still sexually active kissing touching saying I love you, as if nothing ever happened. When I go back home to work for the week and we talk on skype she tends to relive the moment and says stuff like " I cant believe you did that" and "I dont want you to come over this week" or "I need a week to myself" yet we still say we love eachother, but she doesnt trust me at all.
I have two questions for the relationship experts
1) Why are we so happy together but when I leave the relationship goes into a remission
2) What can I do to regain her trust? Every word out of my mouth is the truth to her and I just want so dearly for her to trust me with everything again.
Thank you for your time
Posted Sun Aug 19, 2012 09:54 PM
She did not give you the password for you to go into her email from what I am understanding.
Emails can be very private, and what she has done/emailed in the past is not any of your business, as it is the past before you were dating.
It is going to take a LONG time before she will trust you again, if she even does.
In a relationship trust is the biggest factor that keeps partners together.
Posted Sun Aug 19, 2012 10:12 PM
Posted Sun Aug 19, 2012 10:20 PM
Posted Sun Aug 19, 2012 11:13 PM
and for future reference, you can totally go to jail for that.
Posted Sun Aug 19, 2012 11:38 PM
Posted Mon Aug 20, 2012 12:40 AM
Posted Mon Aug 20, 2012 06:08 PM
However, when she does raise it, have you tried asking her what you can do?
If there isn't anything and you have apologised and have learnt from it then you both need to put it behind you and move on.
Relationships cannot work when one person keeps bringing up a mistake made by the other person.
Posted Tue Aug 21, 2012 09:26 PM
Recap two: When she talks to you over the Skype and mention your mistake, ask her what you can do to fix your mistake.
If she wants a week for herself, that maybe a sign that she really just needs the time to think and rethink. Let her have it, but be sure she knows how you are not going to repeat the same or similar mistake. That also can be a sign that she's leaving...
In any case, I think that she has a right to decide what to do and regardles how sorry you are or how many times you said "I'm sorry" she might decide to opt out... Hopefully, it's the opposite... Good luck, dude!
Posted Tue Aug 21, 2012 10:10 PM
Now.. why you two are still so happy? Because clearly she is still crazy for you as much as you are for her. Though she clearly does tend to go back thinking about what you did which leads to the things she says via skype..
I am sure you apologised for it already, but it doesn't hurt to show you're very sorry. Write her something nice, what she means to you etc. and just re-ensure her that you did not mean harm with your snooping and simply find her that interresting you want to know more about her. Though usually it's better to ask her things to get to know her than snoop yourself, and thats something useful for in the future. And hopefully some of this helps you or gives you an idea of what you can do.
You could even let her into your email or trust her with something big from your past. She may not take you up on the offers, but its often the jesture/gesture(sp?) that counts in a situation like that.
best of luck man!