New guy and doesnt want kids to date or not to date
Posted Wed Sep 05, 2012 09:32 PM
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Posted Wed Sep 05, 2012 11:30 PM
He's being honest, and that's a good thing. Marriage and children are only one alternative in life...
Posted Thu Sep 06, 2012 06:02 AM
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Posted Thu Sep 06, 2012 01:55 PM
But don't ever forget he warned you. And if your relationship ever becomes serious and you regret not having children, don't blame him.
I have never wanted to have children and that has always been one of the first things I'd tell a guy. Best to make things clear at the very beginning, before feelings make you blind and make you suffer. Or you suceed into imposing children on this guy and he resents you for it.
When I was younger, I have had a number of men telling things like "ah, but you'll change your mind", or "it's nature, you can't fight it", or other stupid things people say. And all that time my dearest dream was to get rid of my womb, a part of my body I have always hated with passion. Those men had something in common: a complete disrespect for me as a person cabaple of taking decisions about how to use my body and how to spend my time and how to live my life. Needless to say, I've gotten rid of them swiftly.
Posted Thu Sep 06, 2012 09:35 PM
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Posted Mon Sep 10, 2012 09:48 AM
Being bipolar you're right, you have the possibility of having children with
similar imbalances of chemicals in the brain of any type, not necessarily
just that one. There could be other issues that could be passed down
from his side or your side, keep that in mind. BUT that is also a factor
for anyone who has kids.
The other problem is you'd probably have to go off your medication when
getting pregnant, being pregnant, or breastfeeding. So you can count on
it being hard not just for you to deal with, but the people around you as
well. If you're looping up and down, you'll need someone stable to help
take care of the baby/child so that you don't have to worry about it's care
falling short because you're suffering from a low point one day.
That being said...
You're just talking about dating him.
You're looking for a life parnter.
He doesn't even want a relationship.
You don't know if you want kids yet.
Sounds to me like you should keep looking for a life partner. I don't think
you've found it in him. And I agree with not settling for/with someone.
If you do decide to be with someone make sure it's because you're happy
and not because you think you can mold them or make them change their
Thanks a lot for ur comments, he said that if he finds something good he ll commit, i really like talking to him and will meet him in person this week since we are going to go to the movies, he is really sweet and flirty and from friends in common i know he is a very good person, so i am really looking forward to get to know him better and sincee I am not sure i want kids I am not worrying about that now and want to see where it could go
Posted Wed Sep 12, 2012 05:18 PM
I just thought I'd share my thoughts about the baby and meds and
stuff because I have a similar situation and those thoughts tend to hold
me back for now. Just wanted to share them in case u hadn't thought
of them too. I wish you the best of luck Xx
Yes i know about all these with the meds and the pregnancy and I am not sure if in my country there are doctors who know about bipolar and pregnancy, i am also worried about my energy levels , I never know how am i going to feel the next day, will be hard enough to care for a partner, not sure i could deal with kids as well, but theres always adoption too, so i still have some time to think about it.
Posted Sun Dec 16, 2012 06:42 PM