Is being a virgin normal?
Posted Sun Sep 09, 2012 03:36 PM
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Posted Wed Sep 12, 2012 11:44 AM
Well put Saysoon, I totally agree. Don't worry about what others consider "normal" or not, freaky. You'll know when the time is right & you find the right woman.
P.S. - I know how ya feel, I'm a 28y.o. virgin. & fine w/ it, the time will come.
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Posted Wed Sep 12, 2012 01:14 PM
It'll happen for you, too.
Posted Thu Sep 13, 2012 10:02 AM
Posted Thu Sep 13, 2012 01:40 PM
Why? What are you afraid of?
I think to 'save yourself' for the right person is odd. The idea that sex will be better when you truly love/respect/enjoy each other is fine, but sex is an activity that we learn about and grow into and get better at over time. Not doing anything sexual will not gain you any experience, regardless of your age. Did you read, watch movies/videos, masturbate during your abstinence? Anything to prepare you for what it will look like, taste like, smell like, feel like? what you will feel like, physically and emotionally?
If the belief is that sex will be special with the special person, how will you feel having virginal, inexperienced sex with your special one, who's probably had a few lovers at least (unless you're waiting for another 38-year-old virgin?)
I would compare it to a woman who waits to cook- no helping mom, no classes, no cooking shows, no menu practice, nothing- because she only wants to cook for the love of her life- the 'special one'. What patience this man must have, to deal with many, many meals of trial and error.
It is only when we have eaten (prepared) many meals that we discover what we like or dislike; which meals take a lot of preparation and which are 'quickies'; which are special occasion meals and which are relaxed, 'just us' comfort food.
Since you haven't had sex your entire adult life, there must be a reason or motivation for this choice- religious, spiritual, post-traumatic. It would be helpful to understand the 'why', so that you can explain it to your lover. Otherwise, she may hear in her head:
"This session of sex will be his first, the one time he has been waiting for, with the woman he has been waiting all his life for, and his relationship with sex will be shaped by how you perform."
The incredible, indescribable pressure...
Posted Fri Sep 14, 2012 04:35 AM
If you are asking whether being a virgin at your age makes you some kind of a freak and deserving of any less respect, the answer is definitely NO.
For the record, I didn't lose my virginity until I was 26 - not through choice, but it was just the way it happened (like most things in life). Since then I have enjoyed 25 wonderful years of happy marriage and the most fulfilling sex life with the same beautiful woman.
Life is not a race, and neither is sex.
Posted Fri Sep 14, 2012 09:41 AM
Being a virgin at your age may not be the most common thing in today's society, but that doesn't make you more or less normal than anyone else.