First time sex problem
Posted Sun Sep 23, 2012 08:43 AM
Me and my girlfriend (aged 18-19) love each other a lot, but we have a problem while trying to have sex for the first time. We really want to do it, she gets wet, but nothing happens when I try to come in. She tells that the vagina is too tight, it hurts and penis slips out. We tried that for five nights, but had no success at all. Lube also does not seem to help. Please gives us constructive advice as we become very disappointed every time and another becomes even more difficult and mechanical as well, causing no pleasure. We try oral sex and it is great, although she does not want to try to do it using a finger. Do not recommend going to psychologist or something as we will feel awkward there because of our age and the fact that we study in foreign country.
Thanks in advance.
Posted Sun Sep 23, 2012 10:07 AM
My wild guess is that she's afraid of pain and anxious, and that's why it isn't working.
There could be a physical barrier to penetration (it'd be rare, but possible). If there is no physical barrier, then it'd be the anxiety, most likely, and doing it alone, with a mirror and her own fingers would help her.
A physical barrier easy to deal with would be hair. If her pubic hair is getting in the way, then when your penis is going in, it pushes/pull the hair and it feels painful. Just holding the hair away from the entrance with her fingers would help.
I'm not a physician.
Posted Sun Sep 23, 2012 11:06 AM
Posted Sun Sep 23, 2012 11:11 AM
Another thing you can try is to ease in and out slowly to get the wetness on your penis, and gradually go inside her. I am always tight, but that method always works for me. Hope this helps, and good luck to you both.
Posted Sun Sep 23, 2012 08:53 PM
Posted Wed Sep 26, 2012 12:16 AM
Yep. . . .That's encouraging and great advice for someone looking for serious help.
I agree with Alien here.
Posted Wed Sep 26, 2012 12:20 AM
Posted Thu Sep 27, 2012 07:06 PM
Was going to chime in with the same thing, that it sounded physical. Of course it might not be, but...
Well done Wings!
Posted Sat Sep 29, 2012 03:50 PM
But truthfully, you may need to find professional help.